Sauna and Longevity: A Wider Plan for Aging Well | Vitruvian

Video·Mel Robbins·10 min read·July 30, 2026

Aging well is not only about saving for retirement. It is about designing the daily rituals, relationships, and supports that preserve freedom across a longer life.

A Longer Life Needs A Different Plan

A longer life asks for a wider definition of preparation. Retirement is not a brief closing chapter reserved for travel, grandchildren, and long-delayed leisure. It can become one third of adult life, a full season with its own demands, pleasures, routines, and responsibilities.

We have learned to plan for retirement as a financial event. We track balances, estimate expenses, and imagine a date on the calendar when work changes shape. That planning matters, but it is incomplete. Money protects options; it does not design a life.

The MIT AgeLab frames life in roughly 8,000-day chapters. Birth to 21 is about 8,000 days. From early adulthood to midlife is another. Midlife to the traditional retirement age of 65 is another. Then comes the part many people still treat as short, even though 65 to 85 and beyond can be another 8,000 days.

That framework changes the scale of the conversation. A child born today has a real chance of reaching 100, according to the longevity discussion at the AgeLab. This is not a small extension at the edge of life. It is time enough to require structure, design, and intention.

Aging is a gift of time, but a gift still asks to be received well. The question is not only whether you can afford the future. The question is whether your future self can move through a normal day with freedom, connection, and dignity.

Fantasy retirement leans on highlights. It pictures the cruise, the beach walk, the family trip, the hobby waiting in the corner. Practical longevity planning looks closer. It asks where you will live, how you will get around, who will notice when something changes, and what will give an ordinary morning its shape.

This is where preparation becomes an act of respect. You are not planning for decline as an identity. You are building capacity around a future life that deserves more than improvisation. Freedom lasts longer when it has been deliberately supported.

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How prepared are people in general for facing the phase of life where your facing the phase of life where your capacity to move through your life is capacity to move through your life is starting to decline? starting to decline? >> of the matter is is that most of us plan >> of the matter is is that most of us plan for retirement, but we don't prepare for for retirement, but we don't prepare for retirement. I want you to think about retirement. I want you to think about aging as an amazing gift of time. aging as an amazing gift of time. Retirement is not the short period of Retirement is not the short period of trip with the grandchildren to Disney, trip with the grandchildren to Disney, it's 1/3 of your adult life. A child it's 1/3 of your adult life. A child born today, 1/2 of them it is said are born today, 1/2 of them it is said are likely to live 100 years. likely to live 100 years. >> Wow. >> Wow. >> We don't know how to cash in the years >> We don't know how to cash in the years we have. Let's make living longer living we have. Let's make living longer living better. better. >> Dr. Joseph Coughlin [music] founded and >> Dr. Joseph Coughlin [music] founded and leads the Massachusetts Institute of leads the Massachusetts Institute of Technology AgeLab. You brought along Technology AgeLab. You brought along what looks like an astronaut suit and it what looks like an astronaut suit and it simulates what it can [music] feel like simulates what it can [music] feel like to be the future you who is 90 years old to be the future you who is 90 years old trying to go through your day-to-day trying to go through your day-to-day [music] [music] life. life. >> Agnes stands for the Age Gain Now

>> Agnes stands for the Age Gain Now Empathy System. The lab looks at things Empathy System. The lab looks at things such as how do we redesign our such as how do we redesign our communities not to be just friendly for communities not to be just friendly for aging, but to be age-ready. How do we aging, but to be age-ready. How do we plan for a longer, better life overall? plan for a longer, better life overall? [music] [music] >> You say there are three questions every >> You say there are three questions every one of us needs to ask ourselves when it one of us needs to ask ourselves when it comes to how [music] we think about comes to how [music] we think about aging. aging. >> First one is, how are you going to get >> First one is, how are you going to get an ice cream cone? Do you know the an ice cream cone? Do you know the little things that make you smile? little things that make you smile? Second thing, what are you going to do Second thing, what are you going to do on [music] any given Tuesday at 10:30? on [music] any given Tuesday at 10:30? Now at 10:30 on Tuesday, the average Now at 10:30 on Tuesday, the average couple over age 65 watches upwards of 4 couple over age 65 watches upwards of 4 [music] to 5 hours of TV per day. [music] to 5 hours of TV per day. >> Oh, wow. >> Oh, wow. >> Third thing, do you have someone that >> Third thing, do you have someone that you >> Before we jump in, and this episode is so extraordinary, it's going to blow so extraordinary, it's going to blow your mind. My team just showed me your mind. My team just showed me something that blew my mind. 57% of you something that blew my mind. 57% of you who watch this channel are not who watch this channel are not subscribers. If that subscribe button is subscribers. If that subscribe button is lit up, would you please hit it? My goal

lit up, would you please hit it? My goal is to get that number to 50%. It would is to get that number to 50%. It would mean the world to me and it's the best mean the world to me and it's the best way for you to say, "Hey Mel and hey way for you to say, "Hey Mel and hey Mel's team at the Mel Robbins podcast. Mel's team at the Mel Robbins podcast. Thanks so much for bringing me Thanks so much for bringing me world-renowned experts for free. Thanks world-renowned experts for free. Thanks for showing up here on YouTube and for showing up here on YouTube and helping you create a better life." By helping you create a better life." By hitting subscribe, you'll never miss a hitting subscribe, you'll never miss a thing and it's the way that we know you thing and it's the way that we know you really love what we're doing here on really love what we're doing here on YouTube. All right, thanks for doing YouTube. All right, thanks for doing that. You are going to love this that. You are going to love this episode. So, let's jump into it. Please episode. So, let's jump into it. Please help me welcome Dr. Joseph Coughlin to help me welcome Dr. Joseph Coughlin to the Mel Robbins podcast. the Mel Robbins podcast. >> It's great to be here, Mel. Thanks for >> It's great to be here, Mel. Thanks for having me. having me. >> I am so thrilled that you took time out >> I am so thrilled that you took time out of your busy lab over at MIT to come of your busy lab over at MIT to come here today and I am excited about your here today and I am excited about your research. I would love to have you begin research. I would love to have you begin by speaking directly to the person who's by speaking directly to the person who's listening or watching right now and tell listening or watching right now and tell me what could be different about my life me what could be different about my life if I take everything to heart that if I take everything to heart that you're about to share and I apply it to you're about to share and I apply it to my own life and I really apply it to the my own life and I really apply it to the people in my life that are getting

people in my life that are getting older? older? >> What could be different? The big >> What could be different? The big difference is that if you're prepared, difference is that if you're prepared, if you can envision what you think that if you can envision what you think that future's going to be and please it's not future's going to be and please it's not going to be all about beach walks and going to be all about beach walks and pickleball and maybe even grandchildren. pickleball and maybe even grandchildren. Those will be good punctuated moments Those will be good punctuated moments but hopefully the things that we're but hopefully the things that we're doing with my team at the MIT AgeLab and doing with my team at the MIT AgeLab and the conversation that we'll have is the conversation that we'll have is about being prepared for the little about being prepared for the little moments, the things that make you smile, moments, the things that make you smile, the ability to stay in the home that you the ability to stay in the home that you love and want to be with, the ability to love and want to be with, the ability to provide care. It's about building provide care. It's about building capacity to live your best life. capacity to live your best life. >> I know this is going to be one of those >> I know this is going to be one of those conversations where conversations where if you are older, you're going to feel if you are older, you're going to feel seen. seen. If you are in a caregiving role, If you are in a caregiving role, you're going to feel supported and you're going to feel supported and you're going to be given very specific you're going to be given very specific things that you can do. things that you can do. And you have a real gift in terms of the And you have a real gift in terms of the way that you teach way that you teach and you have a way of making this topic and you have a way of making this topic that's hard to talk about and understand that's hard to talk about and understand in some ways

in some ways easier and more fun to think about, but easier and more fun to think about, but you do it in a way that's very, very you do it in a way that's very, very practical. And so I think one of the practical. And so I think one of the things that people are going to get out things that people are going to get out of this conversation is a whole new way of this conversation is a whole new way to think about the people that they love to think about the people that they love and to think about the role that you and to think about the role that you have to play in your own life and aging have to play in your own life and aging and in supporting others as they do. and in supporting others as they do. >> And Mel, I I want everyone to give >> And Mel, I I want everyone to give themselves a break and what I mean by themselves a break and what I mean by that is that not being prepared for old that is that not being prepared for old age is is not an indictment. It's not age is is not an indictment. It's not like, "Oh my god, I didn't do my plan." like, "Oh my god, I didn't do my plan." Old age is quite new. That in the Old age is quite new. That in the context that we're living, how long context that we're living, how long we're living, the expectations, multiple we're living, the expectations, multiple generations alive at the same time. generations alive at the same time. If you're caring for a loved one today, If you're caring for a loved one today, if you're aging or you're planning to if you're aging or you're planning to age, this is an entirely new world age, this is an entirely new world without a map. without a map. >> So, Dr. Coughlin, especially given the >> So, Dr. Coughlin, especially given the work that you do at the MIT AgeLab, how work that you do at the MIT AgeLab, how do you want us to think do you want us to think about age? about age? >> I want you to think about aging as an

>> I want you to think about aging as an amazing gift of time. So, I want you to amazing gift of time. So, I want you to imagine zero, birth to 21 years old was imagine zero, birth to 21 years old was just make it easy for a lot of people, just make it easy for a lot of people, drinking age. From zero to 21 is about drinking age. From zero to 21 is about 8,000 days. You know, be generous with 8,000 days. You know, be generous with the math, but it's about 8,000 days. the math, but it's about 8,000 days. From 21 to midlife crisis, classically From 21 to midlife crisis, classically 46, 47 years old 46, 47 years old 8,000 days. 8,000 days. And from 46 to 47 to that Newtonian law And from 46 to 47 to that Newtonian law of physics of retirement, 65 of physics of retirement, 65 is 8,000 days. But most people don't is 8,000 days. But most people don't know that the fastest growing part of know that the fastest growing part of the population worldwide, by the way, is the population worldwide, by the way, is 85 plus and 65 to 85 and change is 8,000 85 plus and 65 to 85 and change is 8,000 days. So, if I take zero to 21, I'll days. So, if I take zero to 21, I'll just call that gently, push that off to just call that gently, push that off to the side, call that childhood or if the side, call that childhood or if you're a parent, expensive. You cross it you're a parent, expensive. You cross it you know, off to the side. you know, off to the side. All of a sudden, retirement is not this All of a sudden, retirement is not this short period of trip with the short period of trip with the grandchildren to Disney. It's 1/3 of grandchildren to Disney. It's 1/3 of your adult life. It's a full 8,000 days. your adult life. It's a full 8,000 days. >> I love that 8,000-day framework because

>> I love that 8,000-day framework because when you think about your own life, when you think about your own life, especially looking backwards, you can especially looking backwards, you can see see whether you're going 0 to 21 or 21 to 46 whether you're going 0 to 21 or 21 to 46 or 46 to 65 or 65, you know, to 80, or 46 to 65 or 65, you know, to 80, whatever. whatever. There are so many different versions of There are so many different versions of you in each one of those 8,000-day you in each one of those 8,000-day segments of your life. And we do, segments of your life. And we do, especially as you get older, just kind especially as you get older, just kind of think, "Oh, well, now you're just in of think, "Oh, well, now you're just in that bracket." And I think it's very that bracket." And I think it's very hopeful and exciting hopeful and exciting to recognize that whether you are in the to recognize that whether you are in the 0 to 21 or 21 to 45 or 45 to 65 or 65 to 0 to 21 or 21 to 45 or 45 to 65 or 65 to 80 or 80 and up, 80 or 80 and up, that you have all of these different that you have all of these different slices of life and future versions of slices of life and future versions of yourself that you are going to get to yourself that you are going to get to experience. And a lot of what we're experience. And a lot of what we're going to learn today from you will going to learn today from you will fundamentally shift your mind and fundamentally shift your mind and perspective perspective about those future versions of you that

about those future versions of you that will experience will experience a decline in capacity, potentially, as a decline in capacity, potentially, as you age. you age. >> And that notion of future you, what Mel, >> And that notion of future you, what Mel, you and I will be able to do is to put you and I will be able to do is to put questions in people's minds to help them questions in people's minds to help them navigate basically an entirely unknown navigate basically an entirely unknown land. There's really no map for that land. There's really no map for that older age other than, you know, did you older age other than, you know, did you save enough money and are you going to save enough money and are you going to take a cruise ship? take a cruise ship? There's life is far more complicated There's life is far more complicated than that overall. And those questions than that overall. And those questions will start conversations. will start conversations. >> You say there are three questions every >> You say there are three questions every one of us needs to ask ourselves when it one of us needs to ask ourselves when it comes to how we think about aging. comes to how we think about aging. >> The three questions, not necessarily in >> The three questions, not necessarily in this order. The first one is, how are this order. The first one is, how are you going to get an ice cream cone? you going to get an ice cream cone? Sounds really silly, but it's got a Sounds really silly, but it's got a number of dimensions to it. number of dimensions to it. When we plan for older age, we tend to When we plan for older age, we tend to think about what do we want to do in think about what do we want to do in older age? Well, I'm going to travel, older age? Well, I'm going to travel, spend time with family. Uh there's so spend time with family. Uh there's so much to do around the house so I'll much to do around the house so I'll never get bored. never get bored. Mel, do you remember COVID? Mel, do you remember COVID? We found We We found something out about

We found We We found something out about COVID. Except for the travel part, we COVID. Except for the travel part, we found out that A, all those hobbies you found out that A, all those hobbies you thought that were going to keep you busy thought that were going to keep you busy and painting the spare bedroom three and painting the spare bedroom three times was going to keep you busy for a times was going to keep you busy for a lifetime got boring real fast. And lifetime got boring real fast. And secondly, we found that our significant secondly, we found that our significant other got tired of seeing us other got tired of seeing us significantly 24/7. significantly 24/7. And And so, the first question is, how And And so, the first question is, how are you going to get an ice cream cone? are you going to get an ice cream cone? Do you know the little things that make Do you know the little things that make you smile? Not that we're going to take you smile? Not that we're going to take the kids to Disney, not that the kids to Disney, not that uh you know, we're going to maybe if uh you know, we're going to maybe if you're one of those folks to downsize you're one of those folks to downsize those big monumental moments. those big monumental moments. Longer life or life at any stage is Longer life or life at any stage is about the little moments. And so, do you about the little moments. And so, do you know the little things that make you know the little things that make you smile? So, for me, I want you to imagine smile? So, for me, I want you to imagine it's a hot summer night. I want a soft it's a hot summer night. I want a soft serve. I want a spiral. I want a serve. I want a spiral. I want a chocolate vanilla. chocolate vanilla. The other side of that question is not The other side of that question is not do you know the little things that make do you know the little things that make you smile, but do you have access to you smile, but do you have access to them? 70% of Americans over the age of them? 70% of Americans over the age of 50 live where if you don't drive, you 50 live where if you don't drive, you don't get out. And an ice cream cone is don't get out. And an ice cream cone is one of those things on a hot summer one of those things on a hot summer night you want it at the spur of the

night you want it at the spur of the moment. You don't book a ride, you don't moment. You don't book a ride, you don't bother an adult daughter. You may not bother an adult daughter. You may not show call up a neighbor. You just want show call up a neighbor. You just want it. The peepers are out. It's a hot it. The peepers are out. It's a hot summer night. You want it now. So, do summer night. You want it now. So, do you know how you're going to get an ice you know how you're going to get an ice cream cone? Second thing. cream cone? Second thing. What are you going to do on any given What are you going to do on any given Tuesday at 10:30? Tuesday at 10:30? Sounds really crazy, right? Sounds really crazy, right? But when we think about retirement But when we think about retirement planning, old age planning, we think planning, old age planning, we think about the big things that we're going to about the big things that we're going to do. I've got so much I'm going to do. do. I've got so much I'm going to do. But you know, believe it not, research, But you know, believe it not, research, you imagine somebody got money for this, you imagine somebody got money for this, did research and found out that Tuesday did research and found out that Tuesday apparently is the most boring day of the apparently is the most boring day of the year. Look, most of us don't want to year. Look, most of us don't want to have breakfast with anyone. Just give me have breakfast with anyone. Just give me my coffee and leave me alone. my coffee and leave me alone. The bottom line is is that by 10:30 in The bottom line is is that by 10:30 in the morning, the morning, all of a sudden you now need to all of a sudden you now need to structure your life, whether it was structure your life, whether it was work, family, children. Frankly, if work, family, children. Frankly, if you're no longer a caregiver, you had you're no longer a caregiver, you had structure, you had things to do. structure, you had things to do. Now at 10:30 on Tuesday, the average Now at 10:30 on Tuesday, the average couple over age 65 watches upwards of 4

couple over age 65 watches upwards of 4 to 5 hours of TV per day. to 5 hours of TV per day. >> Oh, wow. >> Oh, wow. >> notion that we're all going to be >> notion that we're all going to be cruising and doing all this fun stuff, cruising and doing all this fun stuff, again, not totally incorrect, but again, not totally incorrect, but there's a lot of Tuesdays out there. there's a lot of Tuesdays out there. Third thing, third question, if you Third thing, third question, if you will. will. Who's going to change your light bulbs? Who's going to change your light bulbs? Sounds again really silly, but I want Sounds again really silly, but I want you to start making a list. And you to start making a list. And And And I want I want that person who's And And I want I want that person who's listening to me right now, start making listening to me right now, start making a list of all the things that you take a list of all the things that you take for granted, that you do every day, for granted, that you do every day, maybe for yourself, for your spouse, maybe for yourself, for your spouse, your partner, or for a loved one. Taking your partner, or for a loved one. Taking out the trash, making a meal, changing a out the trash, making a meal, changing a light bulb. light bulb. And look, as a guy, I do have to confess And look, as a guy, I do have to confess that I do want to climb the ladder and that I do want to climb the ladder and change the light bulb. I am likely to change the light bulb. I am likely to fall and break my hip because my wife's fall and break my hip because my wife's going to be at the going to be at the ladder saying, "YOU'RE GOING TO FALL AND ladder saying, "YOU'RE GOING TO FALL AND BREAK YOUR HIP." AND THAT will be the BREAK YOUR HIP." AND THAT will be the thing that takes me down. But here's the thing that takes me down. But here's the thing I want to you to think about thing I want to you to think about because when things break, you need because when things break, you need redundancy. So that person that's going

redundancy. So that person that's going to change your light bulbs, it's not to change your light bulbs, it's not just whether you have the money to do just whether you have the money to do that. In fact, that many ways, that's that. In fact, that many ways, that's the easy part. Do you have someone that the easy part. Do you have someone that you trust? Someone that would go into you trust? Someone that would go into your mother's home, she's 85 years old, your mother's home, she's 85 years old, cognitively not as sharp as she used to cognitively not as sharp as she used to be. You can write the check perhaps. be. You can write the check perhaps. Do you have somebody you trust to go in Do you have somebody you trust to go in there by themselves? Is somebody your there by themselves? Is somebody your mother's going to accept? Do you have mother's going to accept? Do you have somebody who's going to check on if you somebody who's going to check on if you don't call home or call a friend? Who's don't call home or call a friend? Who's going to call back to make sure going to call back to make sure everything's okay? And frankly, I'll everything's okay? And frankly, I'll throw one other in there, throw one other in there, and we can talk about this. and we can talk about this. Who are you going to have lunch with? Who are you going to have lunch with? And that is the social question. That is And that is the social question. That is the the question about how big is your the the question about how big is your social Well, may Well, make it geeky. social Well, may Well, make it geeky. Social network. Frankly, how many Social network. Frankly, how many friends do you have? friends do you have? And how do well those friends come And how do well those friends come together is frankly in many ways a together is frankly in many ways a bigger predictor of how well you'll age. bigger predictor of how well you'll age. Some really great research done by Some really great research done by Julianne Holt-Lunstad suggests that do Julianne Holt-Lunstad suggests that do you know that being lonely or social you know that being lonely or social isolation has the physical health impact

isolation has the physical health impact of smoking 11 to 15 cigarettes per day. of smoking 11 to 15 cigarettes per day. So, it's not about oh gee, you're So, it's not about oh gee, you're lonely, it's emotional. Yeah, it's all lonely, it's emotional. Yeah, it's all that. But it's also about hypertension, that. But it's also about hypertension, depression, and everything else. depression, and everything else. >> How many friends do you need? >> How many friends do you need? >> Generally speaking, we only have maybe >> Generally speaking, we only have maybe one, two, and if you're really wealthy, one, two, and if you're really wealthy, and I mean wealthy in the social sense, and I mean wealthy in the social sense, three [snorts] friends. three [snorts] friends. And and and these are the folks that And and and these are the folks that have your back. When something happens have your back. When something happens wrong at 2:00 in the morning, when a wrong at 2:00 in the morning, when a loved one is critically ill, they're the loved one is critically ill, they're the ones who support you overall. ones who support you overall. And then I added friends under And then I added friends under development. development. Because as I remember a woman I was Because as I remember a woman I was interviewing in Chicago interviewing in Chicago said to me, only a few years ago, and I said to me, only a few years ago, and I was asking her about her social was asking her about her social connection, and she leans over and I connection, and she leans over and I think she was like 82, she leans over think she was like 82, she leans over and she says to me, "Son!" Which if you and she says to me, "Son!" Which if you look like this, being called son is a look like this, being called son is a pretty cool thing. [laughter] pretty cool thing. [laughter] She goes, "Son! She goes, "Son! At my age, there's a natural attrition At my age, there's a natural attrition to friendship." to friendship." You don't think about that. But over

You don't think about that. But over time, and it's not just the existential, time, and it's not just the existential, you lose friends due to death you lose friends due to death or disease, or disease, but they move on. They move away. And but they move on. They move away. And many people are going to hate me for many people are going to hate me for saying this, saying this, but grandchildren actually hurt your but grandchildren actually hurt your friendships. Because what you used to do friendships. Because what you used to do on a Friday night to go out to have on a Friday night to go out to have dinner or a movie is like, "OH, NO, I'm dinner or a movie is like, "OH, NO, I'm going to babysit her. I can't wait to going to babysit her. I can't wait to see baby Joey." Or you know, whatever it see baby Joey." Or you know, whatever it might be. Those are great things. might be. Those are great things. But you need to start thinking of your But you need to start thinking of your friendships as a portfolio. Indeed, I friendships as a portfolio. Indeed, I like to call it a social portfolio. We like to call it a social portfolio. We worry about our wealth portfolio, but worry about our wealth portfolio, but think about your social portfolio. How think about your social portfolio. How robust, how rich is it overall? robust, how rich is it overall? >> I want to stay on that grandkids really >> I want to stay on that grandkids really impact your friendships as you get older impact your friendships as you get older as an adult because one of the things as an adult because one of the things that I've noticed just as my own parents that I've noticed just as my own parents are getting older, my mom is in her late are getting older, my mom is in her late 70s, my dad in his is in his early 80s 70s, my dad in his is in his early 80s is I have seen the friendship attrition is I have seen the friendship attrition that you're talking about. that you're talking about. >> Yep. >> Yep. >> And I've seen how they used to have this

>> And I've seen how they used to have this big group of people that they hung out big group of people that they hung out with. And as they've gotten older and with. And as they've gotten older and certainly as people have died or people certainly as people have died or people have moved away have moved away >> Yep. >> Yep. >> or people have stopped making the long >> or people have stopped making the long drive down to Florida for the month in a drive down to Florida for the month in a cold winter month cold winter month >> Yep. >> Yep. >> their friend group has started to >> their friend group has started to completely evaporate. What was once 20 completely evaporate. What was once 20 couples they hung out with couples they hung out with is now two. is now two. And I also hear what you're saying about And I also hear what you're saying about how when your family how when your family starts to grow, which is a wonderful starts to grow, which is a wonderful thing, whether it's with son-in-laws, thing, whether it's with son-in-laws, daughter-in-laws, or it is with kids, or daughter-in-laws, or it is with kids, or it is grandkids, it's a wonderful thing, it is grandkids, it's a wonderful thing, but you tend to then but you tend to then focus in on prioritizing family, which focus in on prioritizing family, which is very important, and you forget about is very important, and you forget about the importance of the social network the importance of the social network that's your age that you also still that's your age that you also still need. need. >> So really this older age is about time >> So really this older age is about time and structure and connection more than and structure and connection more than anything else.

anything else. >> Well, that brings me to the work that >> Well, that brings me to the work that you're doing at the MIT Age Lab that is you're doing at the MIT Age Lab that is so revolutionary and profound so revolutionary and profound because you have created a way because you have created a way for us to go there for us to go there and to not just try to imagine what it's and to not just try to imagine what it's going to be like, but to truly going to be like, but to truly experience the impact of aging. I would experience the impact of aging. I would love to hear you just explain to the love to hear you just explain to the person listening or watching right now, person listening or watching right now, what is the work that you're doing at what is the work that you're doing at MIT and you brought along what looks MIT and you brought along what looks like an astronaut suit complete with a like an astronaut suit complete with a helmet that I am going to call the helmet that I am going to call the astronaut aging suit that you put people astronaut aging suit that you put people in in and it simulates and it simulates what it can feel like to be the future what it can feel like to be the future you who is 90 years old trying to go you who is 90 years old trying to go through your day-to-day life and it through your day-to-day life and it really just hits you right in the gut. really just hits you right in the gut. >> And and I think that kind of frames up >> And and I think that kind of frames up best what the MIT AgeLab is. Look, I I

best what the MIT AgeLab is. Look, I I have the privilege of being here to have the privilege of being here to speak with you, but the AgeLab is made speak with you, but the AgeLab is made up of of 30 really gifted researchers up of of 30 really gifted researchers and students that do the work. I get to and students that do the work. I get to talk about it. talk about it. And look, while we are attentive to And look, while we are attentive to nutrition and exercise and things like nutrition and exercise and things like that, that, what we really look at is where does what we really look at is where does design, technology, and human behavior design, technology, and human behavior come together to rethink where you're come together to rethink where you're going to live. What is the future design going to live. What is the future design of communities? What is the future of of communities? What is the future of the vehicle, the car look like? How will the vehicle, the car look like? How will you receive care? So, we're on the you receive care? So, we're on the physical side of of doing. And so, the physical side of of doing. And so, the the lab looks at things such as what is the lab looks at things such as what is the future of transportation? How do we the future of transportation? How do we redesign our communities not to be just redesign our communities not to be just friendly for aging, but to be age-ready? friendly for aging, but to be age-ready? Caregiving, how do we actually provide Caregiving, how do we actually provide care to loved ones and how do we receive care to loved ones and how do we receive care? care? And much of what we will be speaking And much of what we will be speaking about, longevity planning. How do we not about, longevity planning. How do we not just plan for our financial security? just plan for our financial security? How do we plan for a longer, better life

How do we plan for a longer, better life overall? And then probably the other overall? And then probably the other main area that we like to work on is the main area that we like to work on is the multi-generational workplace. Do you multi-generational workplace. Do you remember remember when the workplace was there are younger when the workplace was there are younger workers and there are older workers? workers and there are older workers? Imagine this. We now have not one, two, Imagine this. We now have not one, two, two, four, or five. We have upwards of two, four, or five. We have upwards of six generations in the workplace, shall six generations in the workplace, shall we say we say generational kinetics of expectation, generational kinetics of expectation, how we work, what what we do, and and how we work, what what we do, and and the like in the workplace. So, longer the like in the workplace. So, longer life longevity changes everything. And life longevity changes everything. And the AgeLab is about trying to redesign the AgeLab is about trying to redesign the systems to support living longer and the systems to support living longer and better. better. >> And they also happen to have a profound >> And they also happen to have a profound impact on the systems in your mindset. impact on the systems in your mindset. >> Yes. >> Yes. >> That have you not be able to predict >> That have you not be able to predict what it's going to be like for you as what it's going to be like for you as you age, and to also have you not you age, and to also have you not understand what the people that understand what the people that you love are going through right now as you love are going through right now as they are aging. And you have this they are aging. And you have this astronaut aging suit. astronaut aging suit. >> Agnes. >> Agnes. >> Agnes. And what does Agnes stand for?

>> Agnes. And what does Agnes stand for? >> Agnes, we love acronyms at MIT. So, >> Agnes, we love acronyms at MIT. So, Agnes stands for the Age Gain Now Agnes stands for the Age Gain Now Empathy System. Empathy System. >> Dr. Coughlin's brought his team. The >> Dr. Coughlin's brought his team. The suit is hanging outside, and I'm going suit is hanging outside, and I'm going to try it on, and I will narrate step by to try it on, and I will narrate step by step by step what's happening. I will do step by step what's happening. I will do my best to explain what I am feeling in my best to explain what I am feeling in real time as I am experiencing real time as I am experiencing the MIT AgeLab simulation the MIT AgeLab simulation of the way that aging can compromise of the way that aging can compromise your capacity to move, to pick things your capacity to move, to pick things up, to see, to do the simple things up, to see, to do the simple things day-to-day. day-to-day. And I am really excited cuz I think this And I am really excited cuz I think this is going to have a profound impact on me is going to have a profound impact on me and you, whether you're listening or and you, whether you're listening or watching. watching. >> and it's aging, and it's it's the more >> and it's aging, and it's it's the more about the health conditions that kind of about the health conditions that kind of correlate with aging quite often. So, correlate with aging quite often. So, diabetes, arthritis, diminished vision diabetes, arthritis, diminished vision function. function. But, Mel, one of the things I think But, Mel, one of the things I think you're going to experience, as do my

you're going to experience, as do my students and the companies we work with, students and the companies we work with, is the aha moment, which is yeah, we is the aha moment, which is yeah, we interview older adults. We watch them in interview older adults. We watch them in the wild. We're kind of creepy. We watch the wild. We're kind of creepy. We watch in the house, the car, the store, in the house, the car, the store, in the home, whatever it might be. in the home, whatever it might be. But, it's when you wear the suit that But, it's when you wear the suit that you kind of like get it. It's like, why you kind of like get it. It's like, why is this more difficult than it should is this more difficult than it should be? Because as a designer, as an be? Because as a designer, as an engineer, you say, engineer, you say, "That's not acceptable. I can change the "That's not acceptable. I can change the material. I can change the design. I can material. I can change the design. I can make it better." make it better." So, just so you know, Mel, and and for So, just so you know, Mel, and and for all the listeners, you can maybe hear all the listeners, you can maybe hear some like tearing and clinking and some like tearing and clinking and clanging. It's going to be Velcro clanging. It's going to be Velcro weights and some belts. So, we promise weights and some belts. So, we promise we'll be we'll be gentle, Mel. we'll be we'll be gentle, Mel. >> But, that's the sound of the suit going >> But, that's the sound of the suit going >> That's the sound of the suit going on. >> That's the sound of the suit going on. >> All right. So, Dr. Coughlin, we're going >> All right. So, Dr. Coughlin, we're going to walk outside the studio where the age to walk outside the studio where the age suit is. This is the first time we've suit is. This is the first time we've ever filmed and recorded a part of the ever filmed and recorded a part of the podcast outside of this studio. podcast outside of this studio. >> So, I'm super excited to experience this >> So, I'm super excited to experience this with you. with you. >> Very cool. >> Very cool. >> All right, let's go do this. >> All right, let's go do this. >> All right.

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wearing a jacket, if you're listening to this, that has the lab this, that has the lab >> Exactly. >> Exactly. >> emblazoned on it. That's great. Okay, so >> emblazoned on it. That's great. Okay, so here we go. here we go. >> Um so, I'm going to start by having you >> Um so, I'm going to start by having you take off your shoes. take off your shoes. >> Okay, is the first test that I have to >> Okay, is the first test that I have to balance while I do this? [laughter] balance while I do this? [laughter] >> And that's without it. >> And that's without it. >> Okay, I'm sitting down on the chair to >> Okay, I'm sitting down on the chair to take my shoes off and now I'm regretting take my shoes off and now I'm regretting the fact that I wore stylish jeans that the fact that I wore stylish jeans that have no stretch in them. have no stretch in them. >> It'd be a lot harder if you were wearing >> It'd be a lot harder if you were wearing a skirt, so this works. a skirt, so this works. >> Okay, here we [laughter] go. I'm I'm >> Okay, here we [laughter] go. I'm I'm already having trouble and I don't have already having trouble and I don't have the suit on. Just getting my shoes off the suit on. Just getting my shoes off here. Okay. here. Okay. All right, here we go. So, I'm putting All right, here we go. So, I'm putting on a weighted vest. on a weighted vest. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yep. And now this is not necessarily >> Yep. And now this is not necessarily because you're going to be gaining because you're going to be gaining weight, but you're going to be losing weight, but you're going to be losing muscle mass. muscle mass. >> Oh, so I have to put on a weighted vest >> Oh, so I have to put on a weighted vest because when you lose muscle mass because when you lose muscle mass >> You're starting Everything is starting >> You're starting Everything is starting to feel a little heavier, a little more to feel a little heavier, a little more difficult to move. So, you may maintain difficult to move. So, you may maintain a certain weight, but it doesn't mean a certain weight, but it doesn't mean you have a certain muscle mass, which you have a certain muscle mass, which gives you that strength. gives you that strength. >> Wow. Wait, so hold on. I just want to >> Wow. Wait, so hold on. I just want to make sure I understand this. So, if make sure I understand this. So, if you're looking at somebody in your life

you're looking at somebody in your life that's getting older and they haven't that's getting older and they haven't put on a lot of weight they may still put on a lot of weight they may still just feel like their existing weight just feel like their existing weight feels heavier? feels heavier? >> Exactly. And if they've lost muscle >> Exactly. And if they've lost muscle mass, that means things that were once mass, that means things that were once lighter or just getting up out of the lighter or just getting up out of the chair as you did becomes just a little chair as you did becomes just a little bit more difficult. bit more difficult. >> I never would have thought about that. >> I never would have thought about that. >> So, we we take a lot of it for granted >> So, we we take a lot of it for granted because it doesn't look like it's because it doesn't look like it's changed, but it has. changed, but it has. >> Well, when you think about like I'm just >> Well, when you think about like I'm just thinking about for example like my thinking about for example like my grandma and her not changing grandma and her not changing her body shape at all, but it seemed to her body shape at all, but it seemed to get harder and harder and that's due to get harder and harder and that's due to loss of muscle mass. loss of muscle mass. >> and loss of muscle coordination and >> and loss of muscle coordination and we're going to make it a little bit we're going to make it a little bit worse as we go along. worse as we go along. >> Oh my gosh. Okay, thank you for bending >> Oh my gosh. Okay, thank you for bending down cuz these pants do not have stretch down cuz these pants do not have stretch in them. This was really dumb of me. in them. This was really dumb of me. Okay. Okay. All right, so I'm putting on one leg of All right, so I'm putting on one leg of This is the easy part, I think. I need This is the easy part, I think. I need to hold on to your shoulders. to hold on to your shoulders. >> Okay, the the pants literally are not >> Okay, the the pants literally are not Okay, so I'm getting on the jumpsuit, Okay, so I'm getting on the jumpsuit, everybody. everybody. >> Yep. >> Yep. Yeah, don't fall over because I will not Yeah, don't fall over because I will not >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> think auto mechanic, think

>> think auto mechanic, think uh, if you're a farmer wearing your big uh, if you're a farmer wearing your big carhartt kind of zip-up cold weather carhartt kind of zip-up cold weather thing. So, I've got on my thing. So, I've got on my Okay. I'm going to zip this up. Okay. I'm going to zip this up. Okay. And I've got the vest on Okay. And I've got the vest on underneath. underneath. >> Yep. Now, we were going to start getting >> Yep. Now, we were going to start getting interesting. So, Lauren, what are we interesting. So, Lauren, what are we putting on now? putting on now? >> We are putting on this harness. Um it's >> We are putting on this harness. Um it's going to go right around your waist going to go right around your waist here, and it's going to connect to some here, and it's going to connect to some of the other components that we're of the other components that we're >> So, what So, what you're looking at is a >> So, what So, what you're looking at is a harness with a lot a number of bungee harness with a lot a number of bungee cords. cords. >> Okay. >> Okay. >> And the bungee cords are not to make you >> And the bungee cords are not to make you more flexible. Actually, each one is a a more flexible. Actually, each one is a a certain level of reducing your gait, certain level of reducing your gait, that is, your walk. that is, your walk. >> Restricting how I walk. >> Restricting how I walk. >> Yes. So, suddenly, you the span that >> Yes. So, suddenly, you the span that you're going to be able to walk is going you're going to be able to walk is going to be a little bit more res- resistant to be a little bit more res- resistant or less. or less. It's not that you're not going to be It's not that you're not going to be able to fight it, but it's going to able to fight it, but it's going to start to wear you out. start to wear you out. >> Well, the vest is already wearing me >> Well, the vest is already wearing me out. I mean, I'm standing here with this out. I mean, I'm standing here with this kind of heaviness because I have this kind of heaviness because I have this vest on, and it never I I'm just kind of vest on, and it never I I'm just kind of dumbstruck by

dumbstruck by the fact that you may look at somebody the fact that you may look at somebody who who you love who's getting older, and they you love who's getting older, and they may You may see it in their face, may You may see it in their face, >> Right. >> Right. >> but you don't understand that there's >> but you don't understand that there's this heaviness in their body. this heaviness in their body. >> Basically, the way we like to think >> Basically, the way we like to think about it is that what we're adding to about it is that what we're adding to you is a certain amount of friction of you is a certain amount of friction of environment, you know, interaction with environment, you know, interaction with everything from chairs to kitchen, everything from chairs to kitchen, whatever it is. But, friction, fatigue, whatever it is. But, friction, fatigue, and then often what you'll see in their and then often what you'll see in their face is frustration. face is frustration. Because you remember what it was like to Because you remember what it was like to be easy. Why am I fighting with this or be easy. Why am I fighting with this or having difficulty moving? Because you having difficulty moving? Because you remember what it was like to be seamless remember what it was like to be seamless and smooth. And now it's suddenly and smooth. And now it's suddenly getting a little slower, a little bit getting a little slower, a little bit more difficult, and frankly, a little more difficult, and frankly, a little bit more frustrating. bit more frustrating. >> So, you said three F's there. >> So, you said three F's there. >> Yep. The friction, yep, the fatigue, and >> Yep. The friction, yep, the fatigue, and the frustration. the frustration. >> Yes, and then I can imagine there's a >> Yes, and then I can imagine there's a fourth. You start to feel kind of frail. fourth. You start to feel kind of frail. >> Yep. A A frail, exactly. And also, this >> Yep. A A frail, exactly. And also, this is when we really start to have to is when we really start to have to understand, you know that cranky old

understand, you know that cranky old man? He's not cranky. He's dealing with man? He's not cranky. He's dealing with a lot that you can't see. And he a lot that you can't see. And he remembers what it was like not to have remembers what it was like not to have to manage that. to manage that. >> Wow. Okay. >> Wow. Okay. >> Now we have a pair of Crocs with a thick >> Now we have a pair of Crocs with a thick layer of foam on the bottom. layer of foam on the bottom. >> Now Okay, now what are these designed to >> Now Okay, now what are these designed to do? do? >> Lauren, is this a style statement? >> Lauren, is this a style statement? >> Well, [laughter] >> Well, [laughter] in part, in part. Um but in part also in part, in part. Um but in part also for balance. Um so they for balance. Um so they >> Oh, they're wobbly. >> Oh, they're wobbly. >> Yeah. So, what I want you to understand, >> Yeah. So, what I want you to understand, this is not the destiny of aging. this is not the destiny of aging. There's no birth date around this, but There's no birth date around this, but age-related diseases start to gather. age-related diseases start to gather. So, the wobbly is, you know, what So, the wobbly is, you know, what whether it's neuropathy, maybe change in whether it's neuropathy, maybe change in foot pad. All of a sudden now, you're foot pad. All of a sudden now, you're not as sure. You see people moving not as sure. You see people moving slowly in the store? slowly in the store? >> Yes. >> Yes. >> It's often not because they're slow. >> It's often not because they're slow. They're not sure their footing anymore. They're not sure their footing anymore. >> Holy cow. And you're putting ankle >> Holy cow. And you're putting ankle weights around me? weights around me? >> So, this is getting at similarly to the >> So, this is getting at similarly to the vest. It's um some of that muscle loss. vest. It's um some of that muscle loss. >> Well, I Well, I think the thing that's >> Well, I Well, I think the thing that's really striking about even just getting really striking about even just getting the suit on, and I have not even tried the suit on, and I have not even tried to move in it yet.

to move in it yet. What's very striking is just this idea What's very striking is just this idea that you used to feel a certain way in that you used to feel a certain way in your body. your body. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> And now you don't feel like yourself. >> And now you don't feel like yourself. And And given that I'm given that I'm not at this stage in my life yet where not at this stage in my life yet where I'm wobbly on my feet. I'm wobbly on my feet. >> Right. >> Right. >> Unless I've had too many gins. >> Unless I've had too many gins. >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> Or beers. I I >> Or beers. I I Like you you you don't appreciate what Like you you you don't appreciate what it must feel like to be inside a body it must feel like to be inside a body physically that doesn't feel like yours, physically that doesn't feel like yours, and how frustrating and how frustrating it must be. I mean, I I'll I'll just it must be. I mean, I I'll I'll just just I'll tell a quick story. My dad just I'll tell a quick story. My dad recently had cataract surgery, and it recently had cataract surgery, and it didn't go according to plan, and there didn't go according to plan, and there was one of these floaters. was one of these floaters. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> And I can judge like you can see it in >> And I can judge like you can see it in his eye. Like it kind of twinkles, and his eye. Like it kind of twinkles, and it really bothers him. it really bothers him. >> Yep. >> Yep. >> And it's been a year now and >> And it's been a year now and there's kind of this sense of oh well, there's kind of this sense of oh well, you know, you just kind of have to deal you know, you just kind of have to deal with but I can tell how frustrated he is

with but I can tell how frustrated he is by it. by it. >> the little things start to add up. >> the little things start to add up. >> Yes. >> Yes. >> And and they be they become bigger. One >> And and they be they become bigger. One of the things that has been amazing is of the things that has been amazing is that Agnes is a teachable moment. So that Agnes is a teachable moment. So when young students wear it or frankly when young students wear it or frankly we even had teenagers wear it, all of a we even had teenagers wear it, all of a sudden they go, you know, I'm going to sudden they go, you know, I'm going to be nicer to grandma or grandpa or older be nicer to grandma or grandpa or older people. I start to understand why I people. I start to understand why I should hold the door open. Not just cuz should hold the door open. Not just cuz it's a, you know, honorable, polite it's a, you know, honorable, polite thing to do. All of a sudden now I I get thing to do. All of a sudden now I I get why they're a little slower or why it's why they're a little slower or why it's more difficult. more difficult. >> Okay. Now what's coming? >> Okay. Now what's coming? >> So I'm actually going to have you try to >> So I'm actually going to have you try to pull on this pull on this >> and tighten it just a little bit. >> and tighten it just a little bit. >> Okay. This is hard to do. You're making >> Okay. This is hard to do. You're making me get my own So she's asking me to me get my own So she's asking me to tighten this thing. tighten this thing. >> That's right. We haven't given you your >> That's right. We haven't given you your arthritis hands yet. arthritis hands yet. >> And I can't like actually can't get this >> And I can't like actually can't get this thing tightened. So now I feel thing tightened. So now I feel demoralized cuz I can't get my own belt demoralized cuz I can't get my own belt tightened and I'm going to have to ask tightened and I'm going to have to ask doc to help me here. doc to help me here. Oh my This is so much harder than I Oh my This is so much harder than I thought it was going to be. Like it thought it was going to be. Like it makes me feel two things at once. I feel

makes me feel two things at once. I feel a lot of compassion a lot of compassion for anyone who's getting older and who for anyone who's getting older and who is having trouble moving or who is is having trouble moving or who is feeling fragile or frustrated or that feeling fragile or frustrated or that there's just the friction is the right there's just the friction is the right word. And the second thing that I felt word. And the second thing that I felt was just this sense of urgency for why I was just this sense of urgency for why I need to be lifting weights right now. need to be lifting weights right now. Why I need to be eating healthy. Why I Why I need to be eating healthy. Why I need to pay attention to mobility and need to pay attention to mobility and balance now before I get into a balance now before I get into a situation where everything's breaking situation where everything's breaking down. down. >> And and think about when we think about >> And and think about when we think about aging, most people don't really have a aging, most people don't really have a definition of it. They think about it as definition of it. They think about it as a number of birthdays. That's older. a number of birthdays. That's older. Actually aging is about diminishing Actually aging is about diminishing capacity over time. capacity over time. >> Aging, hold on. Let me make sure I get >> Aging, hold on. Let me make sure I get Aging is about capacity diminishing over Aging is about capacity diminishing over time. time. >> So, your weightlifting is increasing >> So, your weightlifting is increasing your capacity. You're pushing out the your capacity. You're pushing out the clock. Learning something new keeps you clock. Learning something new keeps you cognitively well. So, the idea is is not cognitively well. So, the idea is is not to, shall we say, go quietly into that

to, shall we say, go quietly into that good night, but to do the things like good night, but to do the things like eating, exercise, social condition to eating, exercise, social condition to push aging out further out. push aging out further out. >> What I notice is the Crocs are making I >> What I notice is the Crocs are making I feel like I'm I'm dealing a drunk feel like I'm I'm dealing a drunk driving test. Like walk a line and I'm driving test. Like walk a line and I'm wobbling. You feel unsure as you walk. wobbling. You feel unsure as you walk. You feel like And when you hear then You feel like And when you hear then that if you break a hip, you're dead in that if you break a hip, you're dead in a year, now I don't want to fall, so I'm a year, now I don't want to fall, so I'm feeling a little nervous about even feeling a little nervous about even taking a step. And you know, if you're taking a step. And you know, if you're listening, I I I I it's it's a belt listening, I I I I it's it's a belt around you that has bungee cords around you that has bungee cords attached to your shoes. And so, as attached to your shoes. And so, as you're walking and you're kind of you're walking and you're kind of stepping on a shoe that's like round on stepping on a shoe that's like round on the bottom, your ankles are like a the bottom, your ankles are like a Weeble Wobble. Weeble Wobble. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> And then the spring is is keeping you it >> And then the spring is is keeping you it you feel the tension, so you don't you feel the tension, so you don't really want to stride it out. You want really want to stride it out. You want you feel hesitant. Wow. you feel hesitant. Wow. Oh God, she's about to put a neck brace Oh God, she's about to put a neck brace on me. on me. >> keep on coming. >> keep on coming. >> I don't love this part. Okay. >> I don't love this part. Okay. Why do I have a neck brace on?

Why do I have a neck brace on? >> Well, think about this. And you know, >> Well, think about this. And you know, the lab my lab started around older the lab my lab started around older drivers and transportation. One of the drivers and transportation. One of the things people will say, "You know, these things people will say, "You know, these cars aren't designed very well. I can't cars aren't designed very well. I can't see out the window." Well, here's the see out the window." Well, here's the secret. By the time you're in your 30s, secret. By the time you're in your 30s, yes, you heard me, in your 30s, yes, you heard me, in your 30s, your neck rotation is starting to your neck rotation is starting to reduce. And so, suddenly, you know, the reduce. And so, suddenly, you know, the car is fine. You're just not turning car is fine. You're just not turning your neck. So, what you're getting your neck. So, what you're getting >> I I I I'm I'm I'm trying to turn and >> I I I I'm I'm I'm trying to turn and look at you now, and I can't actually look at you now, and I can't actually turn. turn. >> the car behind you over here. Now, >> the car behind you over here. Now, >> ever had a stiff neck, >> ever had a stiff neck, >> Yep. >> Yep. >> you know that you turn your whole body >> you know that you turn your whole body in order to see. And if this is what you in order to see. And if this is what you have to do every day, have to do every day, this makes this suit makes you feel like this makes this suit makes you feel like a gigantic jerk for being impatient with a gigantic jerk for being impatient with people that are older. people that are older. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> It really does because it puts into >> It really does because it puts into perspective the physical friction of perspective the physical friction of just getting through the day. just getting through the day. >> And you know the irony is we always talk >> And you know the irony is we always talk about them, they, older people. With any about them, they, older people. With any luck, we are they because the luck, we are they because the alternative is not nearly as alternative is not nearly as pretty. pretty. >> That's true. Okay, now what are you

>> That's true. Okay, now what are you doing to me? doing to me? >> So, the next thing >> So, the next thing is vision. So, we have Harrison goggles is vision. So, we have Harrison goggles to simulate different vision conditions. to simulate different vision conditions. This one is impaired acuity, which is This one is impaired acuity, which is just standard low vision. just standard low vision. >> Well, I have that when I don't wear my >> Well, I have that when I don't wear my glasses, so. glasses, so. >> can do is take off your glasses and >> can do is take off your glasses and actually have you put on these yellow actually have you put on these yellow glasses. glasses. >> Okay. >> Okay. And even just lifting up to take my And even just lifting up to take my glasses off. glasses off. Okay. Okay. >> So, this is a helmet. >> So, this is a helmet. >> Why do we have a helmet? In case I fall? >> Why do we have a helmet? In case I fall? >> Well, it's for safety. It's also for >> Well, it's for safety. It's also for you'll notice you'll notice >> This is exhausting. >> This is exhausting. >> Velcro, that'll be the last one. >> Velcro, that'll be the last one. >> This >> This further reduces movement. further reduces movement. >> Okay. And again, all I want to do is sit >> Okay. And again, all I want to do is sit down. down. >> Yeah. And >> Yeah. And >> And I'm exhausted already and I haven't >> And I'm exhausted already and I haven't even started walking. even started walking. >> That's right. We're going to do some >> That's right. We're going to do some We're going to have some fun here in a We're going to have some fun here in a few minutes. few minutes. >> Wow. >> Wow. >> So, why don't we go for a little bit of >> So, why don't we go for a little bit of a walk? a walk? >> Okay. Easier [clears throat] said than >> Okay. Easier [clears throat] said than done, Doc. Okay. So, I'm going to follow done, Doc. Okay. So, I'm going to follow you. you. >> Come on, speed it up. We don't have all >> Come on, speed it up. We don't have all day. day. >> Oh my god. >> Oh my god. >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> That You're like my my petulant >> That You're like my my petulant grandson. grandson. >> So, we're going to do some just basic

>> So, we're going to do some just basic everyday things. So, let's go for a everyday things. So, let's go for a walk. I want you to step around the walk. I want you to step around the cones because you're just basically cones because you're just basically going around your house. going around your house. >> In this suit, you just feel a little >> In this suit, you just feel a little like like >> is off. Wait, you got daily activities. >> is off. Wait, you got daily activities. You got some laundry to pick up here. You got some laundry to pick up here. >> I don't want to pick it up because it >> I don't want to pick it up because it feels like it's going to be hard. That's feels like it's going to be hard. That's what I'm saying here. what I'm saying here. >> there for a while. So, >> there for a while. So, >> Now I'm like feeling friction because >> Now I'm like feeling friction because why am I the one that's picking this why am I the one that's picking this thing up? Oh my god. Okay. thing up? Oh my god. Okay. >> So, we're going to keep walking. >> So, we're going to keep walking. >> Woah. Oh my So, okay. >> Woah. Oh my So, okay. >> Walk around the cone. >> Walk around the cone. >> Now I'm walking around cones. >> Now I'm walking around cones. >> You know those missing socks that are >> You know those missing socks that are always missing? They're right there. always missing? They're right there. >> There's socks on the floor. I have the >> There's socks on the floor. I have the laundry basket that just burned through laundry basket that just burned through like 100 calories to like 100 calories to Then I I can't bend down. Oh my god. Then I I can't bend down. Oh my god. Okay. Now I'm bracing my hand on my knee Okay. Now I'm bracing my hand on my knee to get the socks. to get the socks. And I'm getting back up. And I'm getting back up. >> we step over here cuz the room that >> we step over here cuz the room that you're going to is this way. you're going to is this way. >> Okay. >> Okay. >> And now we're walking out. >> And now we're walking out. >> That's exhausting. That was a lot of >> That's exhausting. That was a lot of friction and these these friction and these these these rounded Crocs do not make it easy.

these rounded Crocs do not make it easy. >> No. And this is where we start to worry >> No. And this is where we start to worry about balance. Not just strength, but about balance. Not just strength, but the power of balance because as you the power of balance because as you mentioned before, if we fall and we mentioned before, if we fall and we break something, that can be lethal let break something, that can be lethal let alone just a fracture. alone just a fracture. >> also if you're feeling wobbly, you don't >> also if you're feeling wobbly, you don't walk in a way that probably stabilizes walk in a way that probably stabilizes you because you're thinking about you because you're thinking about falling. Like the whole time I was falling. Like the whole time I was walking, I'm like, I can't believe how walking, I'm like, I can't believe how unstable I am right now. unstable I am right now. >> And remember, your suit is only >> And remember, your suit is only simulating how you feel in the built simulating how you feel in the built environment. I'm not simulating for environment. I'm not simulating for instance right now hearing balance instance right now hearing balance related issues with the with your ears related issues with the with your ears or maybe frankly having bent down, maybe or maybe frankly having bent down, maybe you have high blood pressure. You went you have high blood pressure. You went to get up, your blood pressure dropped, to get up, your blood pressure dropped, you're feeling a little off balance. you're feeling a little off balance. >> Wow. It's really stunning >> Wow. It's really stunning how this hits you. Okay. Next task. how this hits you. Okay. Next task. >> to go for a walk perhaps? >> to go for a walk perhaps? >> Yes, while I'm up, I think I better keep >> Yes, while I'm up, I think I better keep moving cuz I think if I sit down, I'm moving cuz I think if I sit down, I'm not going to wake up. not going to wake up. >> one of the challenges now I want to be >> one of the challenges now I want to be careful about this and one of the careful about this and one of the challenges is going up and downstairs. challenges is going up and downstairs. >> Yes. >> Yes. >> There is a strong >> There is a strong philosophy out there that's like,

philosophy out there that's like, everyone should live on a one-floor everyone should live on a one-floor home. home. Perhaps. But remember those stairs also Perhaps. But remember those stairs also become, shall we say, exercise. You become, shall we say, exercise. You never want to make a life so easy that never want to make a life so easy that you lose all the friction cuz that you lose all the friction cuz that friction is what's giving you a little friction is what's giving you a little bit of muscle mass. It's giving you a bit of muscle mass. It's giving you a little bit of, you know, activity if you little bit of, you know, activity if you will. will. >> Gotcha. >> Gotcha. >> Now that said, let's do the stairs. >> Now that said, let's do the stairs. >> Okay, let's do the stairs. >> Okay, let's do the stairs. Okay. Okay. Here we go. Here we go. >> And you know, here's just one of those >> And you know, here's just one of those daily activities that becomes a little daily activities that becomes a little bit, you know, bit, you know, >> daunting. >> daunting. >> Yep. >> Yep. >> Okay. >> Okay. >> I would use the railing. >> I would use the railing. >> I'm definitely going to use the railing. >> I'm definitely going to use the railing. >> Frankly, everyone of any age should use >> Frankly, everyone of any age should use the railing. the railing. >> Oh my lord, I >> Oh my lord, I these bungee cords that are around my these bungee cords that are around my waist attached to my waist attached to my wobbly Crocs wobbly Crocs make every step like super deliberate. I make every step like super deliberate. I mean, I'm not even injured. I feel like mean, I'm not even injured. I feel like I'm injured. I'm injured. >> can feel how the rise in the stairs are >> can feel how the rise in the stairs are just, you know, sometimes a little bit just, you know, sometimes a little bit more challenging than you expected. more challenging than you expected. >> I feel this in my hips. >> I feel this in my hips. >> Yep. >> Yep. >> Oh my lord.

>> Yep. >> Let me get to the landing so I'm stable >> Let me get to the landing so I'm stable when I turn around. when I turn around. >> Down is often harder on your knees than >> Down is often harder on your knees than going up. going up. >> So, >> So, it is very daunting to go downstairs. it is very daunting to go downstairs. The Crocs are wobbly. The Crocs are wobbly. The bands just kind of remind you that The bands just kind of remind you that your legs are there. So, something that your legs are there. So, something that you took for granted, you took for granted, you now have to think you now have to think about every single step that you take. about every single step that you take. >> And your vision should be distorting a >> And your vision should be distorting a little bit of your depth of field. little bit of your depth of field. >> Oh, it is. >> Oh, it is. >> And all of a sudden, when the world >> And all of a sudden, when the world starts to have a little bit more starts to have a little bit more friction, whether it's going up or friction, whether it's going up or downstairs, suddenly like, you know, I downstairs, suddenly like, you know, I might want to go downstairs, make a cup might want to go downstairs, make a cup of tea, or make breakfast, or something of tea, or make breakfast, or something like that. I just don't feel like it like that. I just don't feel like it right now. So, I think I'll stay in the right now. So, I think I'll stay in the bedroom and watch TV a little bit bedroom and watch TV a little bit longer. So, suddenly now, what was once longer. So, suddenly now, what was once a very large world in your youth starts a very large world in your youth starts to compress and get smaller because the to compress and get smaller because the physical environment is not adapting to

physical environment is not adapting to what you're doing. what you're doing. >> Well, I can see that. And I think every >> Well, I can see that. And I think every one of us, if you're listening or if one of us, if you're listening or if you're watching right now, I want you to you're watching right now, I want you to think of somebody in your life that you think of somebody in your life that you care about who, as they're getting care about who, as they're getting older, you've noticed that their entire older, you've noticed that their entire world has gotten smaller. Their friend world has gotten smaller. Their friend circle has reduced. They've become less circle has reduced. They've become less active. And active. And you really understand when you put this you really understand when you put this astronaut aging suit on that it's astronaut aging suit on that it's because it's easier to stay home. It's because it's easier to stay home. It's easier not to get in the car or go or easier not to get in the car or go or it's easier not to push yourself out the it's easier not to push yourself out the door cuz everything door cuz everything just involves a lot more effort. That's just involves a lot more effort. That's the piece that I think is very striking. the piece that I think is very striking. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> That you have a memory of what it was >> That you have a memory of what it was like to trot down the stairs. You have a like to trot down the stairs. You have a memory of what it was like to be able to memory of what it was like to be able to pick up the laundry basket, not even pick up the laundry basket, not even think twice about it while you were think twice about it while you were talking on the phone and you had talking on the phone and you had something under your arm. something under your arm. And the friction for me is not even the And the friction for me is not even the physical as much as it's the mental of

physical as much as it's the mental of confronting the decline in capacity confronting the decline in capacity knowing that it wasn't always like this. knowing that it wasn't always like this. >> And and don't underestimate and we talk >> And and don't underestimate and we talk about the world getting smaller. It's about the world getting smaller. It's not just about navigating stairs or the not just about navigating stairs or the kitchen. kitchen. All of us worry about how people look at All of us worry about how people look at us in the world. us in the world. >> Yes. >> Yes. >> And so there's a certain frustration too >> And so there's a certain frustration too of like, I don't want to be seen as of like, I don't want to be seen as struggling or somehow less. We're living struggling or somehow less. We're living in a faster faster world where the in a faster faster world where the population is getting older and may not population is getting older and may not be able to adapt to that speed and be able to adapt to that speed and tempo. So what happens? tempo. So what happens? Um, I don't want to go out Friday night Um, I don't want to go out Friday night with I with I It's not that I don't feel well. It's not that I don't feel well. I just don't feel like it. And part is I just don't feel like it. And part is because I just don't want those public because I just don't want those public eyes watching me go through the door, eyes watching me go through the door, having a hard time taking my jacket off. having a hard time taking my jacket off. >> Yes, that makes lots of That makes a ton >> Yes, that makes lots of That makes a ton of sense. of sense. >> Pride matters at all ages. Okay, I know >> Pride matters at all ages. Okay, I know you're tired, so I'll tell you what, why you're tired, so I'll tell you what, why don't we have you sit down for a few don't we have you sit down for a few minutes? minutes? >> You're reading my mind, doc. Okay, >> You're reading my mind, doc. Okay, >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> let's just turn on the news and go watch >> let's just turn on the news and go watch not the news. Thank you. not the news. Thank you. >> So I think you're about ready for a

>> So I think you're about ready for a rest. rest. >> I am ready to sit down. >> I am ready to sit down. >> we have Why don't you have a take a seat >> we have Why don't you have a take a seat over there? over there? >> of the things that's also happening is I >> of the things that's also happening is I just keep expecting the suit not to be just keep expecting the suit not to be here. here. And I, you know, I'm like trying to move And I, you know, I'm like trying to move through it and I just feel this sense of through it and I just feel this sense of like like it, like, you know, resignation. it, like, you know, resignation. Like, okay, this is just how it is. Like, okay, this is just how it is. >> It's just another day. >> It's just another day. >> god. Okay, this chair is really wow. >> god. Okay, this chair is really wow. >> Well, >> Well, here's a little here's a little lift. here's a little here's a little lift. >> And it's back. >> And it's back. >> Well, exactly. >> Well, exactly. >> How the hell am I going to get out of >> How the hell am I going to get out of this? this? >> Well, that's part of the challenge. I >> Well, that's part of the challenge. I mean, these are the little things that mean, these are the little things that people forget about as we age or we people forget about as we age or we think about our parents aging. I'm going think about our parents aging. I'm going to get them a nice comfortable chair. to get them a nice comfortable chair. I'm going to build an office where it's I'm going to build an office where it's a nice and comfortable low soft chairs. a nice and comfortable low soft chairs. >> Just 3 weeks ago, I was visiting my >> Just 3 weeks ago, I was visiting my parents in Florida and we went to a parents in Florida and we went to a furniture store furniture store >> Yep. >> Yep. >> and I sat down in this chair and I >> and I sat down in this chair and I thought, oh my god, this chair is so thought, oh my god, this chair is so comfortable. It's amazing. And I said, comfortable. It's amazing. And I said, hey Mom, sit down in this. hey Mom, sit down in this. And my mom, who is in great shape, sat And my mom, who is in great shape, sat down and she's like, I couldn't sit in

down and she's like, I couldn't sit in this. I said, why? She goes, it's too this. I said, why? She goes, it's too low. It's too hard to get out of. low. It's too hard to get out of. >> Exactly. >> Exactly. >> And I thought, oh for God's sakes. And >> And I thought, oh for God's sakes. And now I'm thinking I'm such a jerk. now I'm thinking I'm such a jerk. >> And and think of the little friction >> And and think of the little friction points you take for granted. So, you're points you take for granted. So, you're talking about the chair, right? Getting talking about the chair, right? Getting in and out of car. We work with the auto in and out of car. We work with the auto industry about getting in and out of the industry about getting in and out of the cars more than the battle of driving the cars more than the battle of driving the car. How about going to the toilet? A car. How about going to the toilet? A low toilet? low toilet? >> god. >> god. >> Good luck getting back up. >> Good luck getting back up. >> Well, that's hard enough for any of us, >> Well, that's hard enough for any of us, but I mean, I can't even imagine how but I mean, I can't even imagine how hard it is when you walk in and you see hard it is when you walk in and you see a toilet that low and you think, uh-oh, a toilet that low and you think, uh-oh, here we go. here we go. >> All these things need to be >> All these things need to be re-engineered for the society that is re-engineered for the society that is coming, not the society that we used to coming, not the society that we used to be. be. >> Well, I think what needs to be >> Well, I think what needs to be re-engineered immediately is just your re-engineered immediately is just your attitude toward the people that you care attitude toward the people that you care about that are getting older and your about that are getting older and your attitude and patience level with people attitude and patience level with people that you encounter every day in your that you encounter every day in your life. The person who might be taking a life. The person who might be taking a little too long in front of you in the little too long in front of you in the line, the person that's driving a little line, the person that's driving a little slower because they're hesitant. I I slower because they're hesitant. I I it's just it's it's just so striking

it's just it's it's just so striking the friction that you feel. And you the friction that you feel. And you know, I I for the first couple moments know, I I for the first couple moments in this suit, I'm like, okay, I can get in this suit, I'm like, okay, I can get through this. We're going to like these through this. We're going to like these are wobbly Crocs for crying out loud. are wobbly Crocs for crying out loud. But then you get to the point where But then you get to the point where you're just like, all right, this is it. you're just like, all right, this is it. Like I I just have to stop fighting it Like I I just have to stop fighting it and this is just kind of what and this is just kind of what I'm going to have to deal with. I don't I'm going to have to deal with. I don't want to get out of this chair because I want to get out of this chair because I feel like it's going to be a chore. Like feel like it's going to be a chore. Like if I were sitting here without this if I were sitting here without this astronaut aging suit on, I would just astronaut aging suit on, I would just stand up. And what I actually have to do stand up. And what I actually have to do is I I need to brace and pull myself is I I need to brace and pull myself forward. forward. >> [clears throat] >> [clears throat] >> And now I've got to get my feet up >> And now I've got to get my feet up underneath me with my wobbly Crocs. underneath me with my wobbly Crocs. And now stand up, which basically feels And now stand up, which basically feels like your 12th rep of a squat at the gym like your 12th rep of a squat at the gym weighted with weights up here. That's weighted with weights up here. That's what it felt like to get out of that what it felt like to get out of that chair. chair. >> And you're taking your time. Imagine you >> And you're taking your time. Imagine you were at a restaurant, you just had about were at a restaurant, you just had about an hour hour and 15 an hour hour and 15 >> already stood up and gone. And now there >> already stood up and gone. And now there you are trying to get yourself up. you are trying to get yourself up. >> Or you feel, even if they're not, >> Or you feel, even if they're not, they're watching you do it. they're watching you do it. >> Yes. Oh, grandma's looking old. >> Yes. Oh, grandma's looking old. Grandma's like grandpa's really kind of Grandma's like grandpa's really kind of slowing down cuz we all say it. But now

slowing down cuz we all say it. But now we know why. we know why. >> But you're looking a little thirsty. >> But you're looking a little thirsty. Would you like a glass or a bottle of Would you like a glass or a bottle of water? water? >> some water. >> some water. >> why don't we step over here >> why don't we step over here and let's try out those those hands that and let's try out those those hands that you've got. you've got. >> Okay, so I have on fingerless gloves >> Okay, so I have on fingerless gloves that that um What do these simulate? um What do these simulate? >> These are more around arthritis, you >> These are more around arthritis, you know, loss of dexterity, but also know, loss of dexterity, but also arthritis, stiff hands, a little bit of arthritis, stiff hands, a little bit of pain going on there. So you start, you pain going on there. So you start, you know, one of the number one indicators know, one of the number one indicators of older age is grip strength. of older age is grip strength. >> Okay, I'm holding a plastic water >> Okay, I'm holding a plastic water bottle, just your average plastic water bottle, just your average plastic water bottle. I take it nobody here glued this bottle. I take it nobody here glued this shut. shut. >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> Um >> Um Okay. Okay. Even like getting my compromised hand Even like getting my compromised hand >> everywhere. >> everywhere. >> I am. I did spill that, didn't I? >> I am. I did spill that, didn't I? >> So so here's the funny thing is that we >> So so here's the funny thing is that we are trying to be environmentally are trying to be environmentally sensitive with thinner plastic, less, sensitive with thinner plastic, less, you know, smaller cap. But that's where you know, smaller cap. But that's where green is now conflicting with a graying green is now conflicting with a graying society cuz you need a bigger cap to get society cuz you need a bigger cap to get a grip. And with thinner plastic you're a grip. And with thinner plastic you're you're squeezing it hard and that's why

you're squeezing it hard and that's why we have water on the floor. we have water on the floor. >> literally squeeze this on my hand. >> literally squeeze this on my hand. You're absolutely right. You're absolutely right. Wow. Okay. Wow. Okay. That's a pain. That's a pain. >> So you want to phone home? >> So you want to phone home? >> I'd love to call my husband and tell him >> I'd love to call my husband and tell him to get me out of this aging suit. Okay, to get me out of this aging suit. Okay, so here's my phone. so here's my phone. My vision is compromised. I don't have I My vision is compromised. I don't have I even have the giant font on my phone even have the giant font on my phone everybody. So I'm supposed to call Chris everybody. So I'm supposed to call Chris now. now. Text Chris. Okay. Text Chris. Okay. Let's see here. Let's see here. Okay, I can you know how I can tell it's Okay, I can you know how I can tell it's him? him? Cuz there's I think there's his blurry Cuz there's I think there's his blurry photo. photo. >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> And thankfully he's on my favorites. And >> And thankfully he's on my favorites. And if you're listening, I want you to know if you're listening, I want you to know the phone is approximately 2 in from my the phone is approximately 2 in from my face. face. I can't I just type the words hi I can't I just type the words hi and I can't make out the H and the I, and I can't make out the H and the I, but I know that that's what that is. but I know that that's what that is. Okay, hi. I'm going to do the little Okay, hi. I'm going to do the little emoji that's popping up. emoji that's popping up. >> So why don't you send him a photo as >> So why don't you send him a photo as well? well? >> Okay, I probably should since he doesn't >> Okay, I probably should since he doesn't know what age suit this is. know what age suit this is. >> it to Chris and not somebody else.

>> it to Chris and not somebody else. >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> It wouldn't be the first time that I >> It wouldn't be the first time that I mis- Okay, here we go. mis- Okay, here we go. Okay, well I can't reach Oh, okay, this Okay, well I can't reach Oh, okay, this sucks. I'm trying to take a photo in the sucks. I'm trying to take a photo in the age astronaut suit everybody and as I age astronaut suit everybody and as I you know how you have to hold up the you know how you have to hold up the phone like with a selfie. Now I'm trying phone like with a selfie. Now I'm trying to reach forward to hit the button in to reach forward to hit the button in the center cuz none of my grandkids the center cuz none of my grandkids taught me that I can do it on the side. taught me that I can do it on the side. So now I look like an idiot in front of So now I look like an idiot in front of everybody. everybody. >> spare Gen Z or millennial to do it for >> spare Gen Z or millennial to do it for us. us. >> So I'm going to hit this button. Here we >> So I'm going to hit this button. Here we go. go. I I'm faking a smile cuz this is awful. I I'm faking a smile cuz this is awful. Okay, there we go Chris. Now let's see Okay, there we go Chris. Now let's see if I can get this to him. if I can get this to him. Oh, I don't know what that means. I Oh, I don't know what that means. I don't know what the buttons are. Okay, don't know what the buttons are. Okay, hold on. hold on. >> Yeah, you have to use the photo there. >> Yeah, you have to use the photo there. >> is. Thank God for the photos. >> is. Thank God for the photos. There we go. I just sent it to him. There we go. I just sent it to him. >> So if you think about these >> So if you think about these technologies, the way they're designed, technologies, the way they're designed, they're designed primarily for younger they're designed primarily for younger fingers, younger eyes and whatnot. But fingers, younger eyes and whatnot. But they're vital or to our connection and they're vital or to our connection and we are now more, shall we say, connected we are now more, shall we say, connected by high-tech than we are with by high-tech than we are with high-touch. So all of a sudden now that

high-touch. So all of a sudden now that was more important than just the was more important than just the interface. It was about how you stay interface. It was about how you stay connected And just with your husband, connected And just with your husband, but with else. but with else. >> Well, you can also see how you would >> Well, you can also see how you would lean back and opt out from tech because lean back and opt out from tech because it feels overwhelming and if nobody's it feels overwhelming and if nobody's there to help you really assimilate it there to help you really assimilate it into your life, you just sort of opt into your life, you just sort of opt out. And then we make fun of somebody out. And then we make fun of somebody for not being with the times or not for not being with the times or not knowing the trends or not understanding. knowing the trends or not understanding. And so you can see how somebody would And so you can see how somebody would just slowly back away just slowly back away from wanting to be in touch with from wanting to be in touch with everybody. everybody. >> don't want to feel that you're >> don't want to feel that you're incompetent on something. But I have to incompetent on something. But I have to tell you at at at the Age Lab, you know, tell you at at at the Age Lab, you know, we call technology that's hard to use, we call technology that's hard to use, hard to see, and difficult to understand hard to see, and difficult to understand bad technology. It is the only industry bad technology. It is the only industry in the world that dares to accuse the in the world that dares to accuse the consumer of not being competent. If you consumer of not being competent. If you can't use it, that's the technology's can't use it, that's the technology's fault, not yours. fault, not yours. >> This is so second nature to be able to >> This is so second nature to be able to text, Chris, that I would have typically text, Chris, that I would have typically been able to do that in 5 to 10 seconds. been able to do that in 5 to 10 seconds. No question. And you what's what's No question. And you what's what's really interesting about this experience

really interesting about this experience as you're listening or watching is that as you're listening or watching is that keep in mind you are having trouble keep in mind you are having trouble doing things you have always done. doing things you have always done. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> And that's where a lot of the friction >> And that's where a lot of the friction comes. I mean, you've spent your whole comes. I mean, you've spent your whole life getting in and out of chairs. And life getting in and out of chairs. And now suddenly you can't. You've spent now suddenly you can't. You've spent your whole life going up and downstairs. your whole life going up and downstairs. Suddenly you can't. Like for the person Suddenly you can't. Like for the person that is actually living in the Age Suit that is actually living in the Age Suit right now. right now. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> You already have the tight joints. It's >> You already have the tight joints. It's hard to pick up the laundry basket. So hard to pick up the laundry basket. So what is the message that you want that what is the message that you want that person person to hear from you about what's possible to hear from you about what's possible in terms of gaining some of your in terms of gaining some of your strength and autonomy back and tapping strength and autonomy back and tapping back into your life and widening the back into your life and widening the aperture rather than making it so small? aperture rather than making it so small? >> There there are three things that that >> There there are three things that that person, but not just that person, but person, but not just that person, but the people who love them, their their the people who love them, their their adult children, their spouse, their adult children, their spouse, their partner, whatever it might be. Three partner, whatever it might be. Three things to think about. One is that you things to think about. One is that you can get some capability back. So that can get some capability back. So that working out, that nutrition is about working out, that nutrition is about what you can do to improve, shall we

what you can do to improve, shall we say, the original equipment. say, the original equipment. >> Yep. >> Yep. >> The second thing is the built >> The second thing is the built environment itself. The house, the car, environment itself. The house, the car, whatever. Start to arrange things not whatever. Start to arrange things not just cuz they you think they're just cuz they you think they're aesthetically nice, but how do you aesthetically nice, but how do you arrange the the right furniture, the arrange the the right furniture, the right way to organize your kitchen to right way to organize your kitchen to make it so it's easy for you to maneuver make it so it's easy for you to maneuver every day to reduce that friction. And every day to reduce that friction. And the third one, and this is the hardest, the third one, and this is the hardest, you can eat, you can do nutrition, you you can eat, you can do nutrition, you can rearrange your lifestyle. The third can rearrange your lifestyle. The third one, ask for help. Ask for support. So, one, ask for help. Ask for support. So, think about yourself, the environment, think about yourself, the environment, and the human element. and the human element. >> What I love about this episode that >> What I love about this episode that we're doing is that you can use this we're doing is that you can use this episode as a resource. You can send it episode as a resource. You can send it with somebody in your life who is older with somebody in your life who is older or send it to somebody in your life or send it to somebody in your life who's younger who doesn't understand and who's younger who doesn't understand and use this as a way to open up the use this as a way to open up the conversation conversation with the people in your life about the with the people in your life about the support that you need. support that you need. >> And now, you just put your finger on the >> And now, you just put your finger on the most important thing you could do to most important thing you could do to plan for a better longevity. plan for a better longevity. The conversation. The conversation. There's no reason to feel that aging has

There's no reason to feel that aging has to be something you do alone. It's a to be something you do alone. It's a conversation with the people you love, conversation with the people you love, the people that you call friends, they the people that you call friends, they about how do we rearrange the about how do we rearrange the environment? What is it that we can do environment? What is it that we can do to improve each other's lives? to improve each other's lives? >> I also love that we have this now as an >> I also love that we have this now as an episode for doctors, physicians, episode for doctors, physicians, therapists, nurses, people working in therapists, nurses, people working in nursing homes and schools to be able to nursing homes and schools to be able to send to families as something to listen send to families as something to listen to so that you can have the conversation to so that you can have the conversation in a very powerful and supportive and in a very powerful and supportive and empathetic way. empathetic way. >> And again, it's not about {quote} >> And again, it's not about {quote} those old people. This is something that those old people. This is something that we all have a vested interest in. we all have a vested interest in. >> all of us, everybody. So, >> all of us, everybody. So, uh uh >> There's no exit. >> There's no exit. >> There's no exit. There's just how you >> There's no exit. There's just how you move toward it. move toward it. >> Well, I think you've had enough fun. >> Well, I think you've had enough fun. It's time to take the suit off. It's time to take the suit off. >> I'm so the I those are music to my ears. >> I'm so the I those are music to my ears. We're going to start ripping off the We're going to start ripping off the Velcro. You know, can Can say something? Velcro. You know, can Can say something? I can't even get the damn Velcro off I can't even get the damn Velcro off these weights the weight of vest with these weights the weight of vest with these gloves on.

these gloves on. >> Well, Lauren's here to help you, but >> Well, Lauren's here to help you, but while while you're taking this suit off while while you're taking this suit off >> I can't get these weights off. I This is >> I can't get these weights off. I This is so It's not that it's hard. It's so so It's not that it's hard. It's so frustrating. frustrating. It you feel almost like It you feel almost like I don't know, a little demoralized. I don't know, a little demoralized. >> Did you have an aha moment though about >> Did you have an aha moment though about being able to see Frankly, this could be being able to see Frankly, this could be my future self and now you're more my future self and now you're more empowered or wanting to go to the gym empowered or wanting to go to the gym perhaps or perhaps or >> to do the interview. I want to go do >> to do the interview. I want to go do some weight lifting because I don't want some weight lifting because I don't want this to be my future and I know based on this to be my future and I know based on the research that the research that if you stay active and you can start at if you stay active and you can start at any age, it helps your joints from any age, it helps your joints from getting stiff. It helps your balance. It getting stiff. It helps your balance. It helps your muscles be able to stay helps your muscles be able to stay strong so that they're not hanging off strong so that they're not hanging off of you when creating all this extra of you when creating all this extra weight and that it really is important. weight and that it really is important. You know, we can talk all we want about You know, we can talk all we want about how how longevity living a great life for me longevity living a great life for me means, you know, I want to be able to

means, you know, I want to be able to put my suitcase in the overhead when I'm put my suitcase in the overhead when I'm traveling to visit a grandchild in my traveling to visit a grandchild in my 90s. I want to dance at weddings. I want 90s. I want to dance at weddings. I want to be able to walk with my friends. I to be able to walk with my friends. I want to be able to cook and live want to be able to cook and live independently if that's what I choose. independently if that's what I choose. >> in older age we often think about will I >> in older age we often think about will I have enough money, but what you're have enough money, but what you're talking about is the real currency of talking about is the real currency of longevity, the capacity to put that longevity, the capacity to put that suitcase up and go visit. suitcase up and go visit. >> Yes. >> Yes. >> Preferably without a lot of help. >> Preferably without a lot of help. >> Well, and I'll take the help, but I >> Well, and I'll take the help, but I don't want to feel like I need it to don't want to feel like I need it to like I can't get the hand weights off. like I can't get the hand weights off. These are only 2 lb. Like that's nothing These are only 2 lb. Like that's nothing and it feels like everything. And so the and it feels like everything. And so the big aha moment for me, again, in two big aha moment for me, again, in two areas. One is for myself personally. areas. One is for myself personally. There are things I need to be doing and There are things I need to be doing and you need to be doing you need to be doing as you listen to this or watch this that as you listen to this or watch this that extend your life and the joy you will extend your life and the joy you will feel and the energy you will have by feel and the energy you will have by decades. And how it's not the What is decades. And how it's not the What is it? It's not the years in your life, it? It's not the years in your life, it's the life in your years.

it's the life in your years. >> And that that's what this is really >> And that that's what this is really about. And the second thing is, I feel about. And the second thing is, I feel like a giant schmucko for I'm I'm not like a giant schmucko for I'm I'm not kidding for either being frustrated with the people in my life that have gotten older or being impatient gotten older or being impatient with somebody who is taking a little with somebody who is taking a little longer or driving a little slower or longer or driving a little slower or walking a little slower walking a little slower or being judgy or being judgy of somebody who is asking about tech or of somebody who is asking about tech or asking the same question again or asking the same question again or doesn't like the chair because it sits a doesn't like the chair because it sits a little low and it's hard to get out of little low and it's hard to get out of and you know, you like the chair cuz and you know, you like the chair cuz it's nice. And so I just have had two it's nice. And so I just have had two massive aha moments, one related to massive aha moments, one related to personal motivation and why it matters personal motivation and why it matters at a deeper level. It's not about at a deeper level. It's not about bathing suits and fitting into pants. bathing suits and fitting into pants. It's about putting more joy and years It's about putting more joy and years into the life that you have. into the life that you have. >> more time, now let's how do we cash that >> more time, now let's how do we cash that time in to be joyful? And I'm hoping

time in to be joyful? And I'm hoping that that, you know, through your that that, you know, through your experience just now that there's another experience just now that there's another point. It's not just about how we point. It's not just about how we individually need to eat, exercise, and individually need to eat, exercise, and all that to improve our personal all that to improve our personal function, but also people often pursue function, but also people often pursue behaviors because other people encourage behaviors because other people encourage them to do it or other people around them to do it or other people around them are doing the same thing. So if them are doing the same thing. So if you're a younger adult child or you're a younger adult child or something, the idea of really give your something, the idea of really give your parents or a loved one a thataboy parents or a loved one a thataboy thatagirl for working out or encourage thatagirl for working out or encourage them to work out for their own good and them to work out for their own good and frankly if you're a caregiver for your frankly if you're a caregiver for your good, too. good, too. >> Well, we're going to talk more about >> Well, we're going to talk more about caregiving and why this caregiving and why this matters so much for you if you're caring matters so much for you if you're caring for little kids, if you're caring for for little kids, if you're caring for aging parents, why aging parents, why it is so important that you figure out it is so important that you figure out small ways to take care of yourself and small ways to take care of yourself and the by taking care of yourself we're the by taking care of yourself we're talking sleep, we're talking you making talking sleep, we're talking you making time to still exercise, we're talking time to still exercise, we're talking about you eating what you need to eat, about you eating what you need to eat, you finding one point every week where you finding one point every week where you're doing something just for you you're doing something just for you whether it's reading a book or going to,

whether it's reading a book or going to, you know, a spiritual thing or just you know, a spiritual thing or just shimmy that sucker right off. There we shimmy that sucker right off. There we go. Couldn't get the belt off everybody go. Couldn't get the belt off everybody even without the the hand restraints. even without the the hand restraints. With my own hands I wasn't that good at With my own hands I wasn't that good at it. All right, we'll take off the suit. it. All right, we'll take off the suit. >> You're you're going to feel a momentary >> You're you're going to feel a momentary relief as soon as this all starts coming relief as soon as this all starts coming off. off. >> I have to get this weighted vest off. >> I have to get this weighted vest off. >> Well, you can't Well, you can't wait, >> Well, you can't Well, you can't wait, can you? can you? >> I can't. [laughter] How do we get this >> I can't. [laughter] How do we get this off? Okay. Oh my god. Oh my gosh. off? Okay. Oh my god. Oh my gosh. Wow. Wow. Wow. Get these Crocs off. Wow. Get these Crocs off. >> Because they're on. >> Because they're on. >> Careful. >> Careful. >> to feel my feet on the ground. >> to feel my feet on the ground. >> Yep. Steady. >> Yep. Steady. >> Steady. >> Steady. Steady. Oh my god. Steady. Oh my god. Get these goggles off. Get these goggles off. >> goggles back on. >> goggles back on. >> My glasses back on. Holy cow. >> My glasses back on. Holy cow. I feel like a completely different I feel like a completely different >> See, Lauren looks really sweet, but see >> See, Lauren looks really sweet, but see what she does to a person in 5 minutes? what she does to a person in 5 minutes? >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> That's weird. How different that was. >> That's weird. How different that was. >> So. >> So. >> I don't want that to be what happens.

>> I don't want that to be what happens. >> So, you got to work for it. >> So, you got to work for it. >> You got to work for it. I think now that >> You got to work for it. I think now that you understand what's coming, it's you understand what's coming, it's important to understand what you're important to understand what you're working for. working for. >> Yep. >> Yep. >> And that the body and the Thank you. The >> And that the body and the Thank you. The human body is incredible in that it is I human body is incredible in that it is I always like this I I I like to think always like this I I I like to think about the fact that we're all like about the fact that we're all like wilting plants in the corner. A little wilting plants in the corner. A little bit of sun and water we perk right back bit of sun and water we perk right back up and I think that's true about sleep up and I think that's true about sleep and movement and resistance training and and movement and resistance training and exercise. exercise. >> And by the way, it's not just what we're >> And by the way, it's not just what we're doing for ourselves, doing for ourselves, we invest financially for our own we invest financially for our own security so that we're not a burden on security so that we're not a burden on others. Investing in yourself others. Investing in yourself physically, nutritionally, cognitively physically, nutritionally, cognitively is an investment for others as well. is an investment for others as well. Look, aging is inevitable. How you age Look, aging is inevitable. How you age is not necessarily so. is not necessarily so. >> And how we support the people around us >> And how we support the people around us who are aging is 1,000% in your control. who are aging is 1,000% in your control. >> Exactly. >> Exactly. >> And that's one of the biggest things >> And that's one of the biggest things that this experience has taught me that that this experience has taught me that I have major amount of changing to do

I have major amount of changing to do personally. personally. So, I want to unpack this So, I want to unpack this like step by step by step to make sure like step by step by step to make sure that as you've been listening or you've that as you've been listening or you've been watching, that you really get the been watching, that you really get the most important takeaways for you and most important takeaways for you and yourself personally and also for your yourself personally and also for your family and the people that you care family and the people that you care about. Because I know this is going to about. Because I know this is going to be one of these conversations that be one of these conversations that spreads around the world and creates so spreads around the world and creates so much positive change for people much positive change for people personally and within their families. personally and within their families. So, let's go back in the studio. So, let's go back in the studio. >> Sounds like a plan. >> Sounds like a plan. >> me put my boots back. So, we are back in >> me put my boots back. So, we are back in the studio and the studio and everybody on the team, everybody on the team, Dr. Coughlin, has come up to me since Dr. Coughlin, has come up to me since doing the suit doing the suit and just said, you know, what was it and just said, you know, what was it like? Holy cow, it was unbelievable to like? Holy cow, it was unbelievable to see you do that. And see you do that. And I really did feel like my grandmother. I really did feel like my grandmother. >> Is it a perfect simulation? No, but it's >> Is it a perfect simulation? No, but it's close enough to give you that aha for close enough to give you that aha for your grandmother or frankly the way my your grandmother or frankly the way my students, the researchers, and the students, the researchers, and the companies we work with is to give them a companies we work with is to give them a sense of what it's like to walk in that sense of what it's like to walk in that consumer's shoes, whether it's senior

consumer's shoes, whether it's senior living, the drugstore, frankly just living, the drugstore, frankly just going out to eat. going out to eat. >> I have to ask you, >> I have to ask you, how prepared are people in general how prepared are people in general for facing the phase of life where it's for facing the phase of life where it's retirement or your capacity retirement or your capacity to move through your life is starting to to move through your life is starting to decline. decline. >> The fact of the matter is is that most >> The fact of the matter is is that most of us of us plan for retirement, but we don't plan for retirement, but we don't prepare for retirement. It sounds like a prepare for retirement. It sounds like a word game, I don't mean it to be. word game, I don't mean it to be. I want you to think about this. Planning I want you to think about this. Planning is much like a grocery list. It's the is much like a grocery list. It's the intent to eat. But anyone who's in intent to eat. But anyone who's in charge of shopping, shall we say, we charge of shopping, shall we say, we know that until it's in the cart, in the know that until it's in the cart, in the cabinet, or frankly on the plate, you're cabinet, or frankly on the plate, you're not eating. And that's the preparedness. not eating. And that's the preparedness. The preparedness part is The preparedness part is are you uh aware of the things you need are you uh aware of the things you need to do? Are you giving it a little to do? Are you giving it a little attention? Then ultimately, are you attention? Then ultimately, are you taking action? And so, bottom line is we taking action? And so, bottom line is we are not prepared very well at all. are not prepared very well at all. >> And what do you want us to know about >> And what do you want us to know about what's actually possible?

what's actually possible? >> Well, think about this. The 30 extra >> Well, think about this. The 30 extra years we have gained in longevity since years we have gained in longevity since the year 1900. That's a dividend to be the year 1900. That's a dividend to be cashed in, not something to be wallowing cashed in, not something to be wallowing uh sadness about. So, what I want people uh sadness about. So, what I want people to think about is that the the joy that to think about is that the the joy that they can achieve, the the daily moments, they can achieve, the the daily moments, but more importantly, being prepared is but more importantly, being prepared is not just about being, you know, good not just about being, you know, good rational person. It's also an act of rational person. It's also an act of love. An act of love for yourself, an love. An act of love for yourself, an act of love for those that you that you act of love for those that you that you love and the like. love and the like. >> For the person who's in the state that I >> For the person who's in the state that I am in, all of my friends are in right am in, all of my friends are in right now, we're all talking about it, we're now, we're all talking about it, we're trying to gently open the door and have trying to gently open the door and have the conversation. the conversation. I'm grateful that you're here cuz this I'm grateful that you're here cuz this episode is a wonderful way to open the episode is a wonderful way to open the door, door, but what's one step that the person but what's one step that the person listening or watching can take listening or watching can take to start having this conversation to start having this conversation about setting somebody up to age well about setting somebody up to age well and have all these components in place and have all these components in place so that you can? so that you can? >> You know,

>> You know, for the the most important technology for the the most important technology out there is the conversation. It's not out there is the conversation. It's not a app, it's not a gee whiz, it's not a app, it's not a gee whiz, it's not genetics or space travel. It really is genetics or space travel. It really is the conversation. And one of the things the conversation. And one of the things I want you to think about, I want I want you to think about, I want everyone to think about, is that we do everyone to think about, is that we do not have a story for old age. We have a not have a story for old age. We have a story that old age is somewhere between story that old age is somewhere between cruises and crutches, uh and and we cruises and crutches, uh and and we forget all the chapters in between. And forget all the chapters in between. And so, my team at the MIT AgeLab did some so, my team at the MIT AgeLab did some awesome work with our partners at John awesome work with our partners at John Hancock to develop a map Hancock to develop a map of what longevity is going to be like. of what longevity is going to be like. You know, in fairness, we've never had a You know, in fairness, we've never had a generation of people living this long generation of people living this long with this high of expectations, with not with this high of expectations, with not just one generation caring for another. just one generation caring for another. I you know, we all talk about the I you know, we all talk about the sandwich generation. The heck with that. sandwich generation. The heck with that. There's no sandwich generation. We have There's no sandwich generation. We have a panini generation now because people a panini generation now because people in their 60s are caring for parents in in their 60s are caring for parents in their 80s and 90s. And by the way, that their 80s and 90s. And by the way, that 40-something year old mom with kids and 40-something year old mom with kids and working full-time is worried about the

working full-time is worried about the 60-year-old as much as she's worrying 60-year-old as much as she's worrying about the grandparents. So suddenly, about the grandparents. So suddenly, this is new. We've we've always had this is new. We've we've always had older people, but not with this much older people, but not with this much time and expectations. So we created time and expectations. So we created this idea of a longevity preparedness this idea of a longevity preparedness index. index. >> Okay. >> Okay. >> And so we pulled all this research from >> And so we pulled all this research from around the world and stuff we've been around the world and stuff we've been doing at the lab for 25 years, doing at the lab for 25 years, and we found eight different dimensions and we found eight different dimensions to start that conversation that we're to start that conversation that we're talking about. talking about. >> And we're going to go through the >> And we're going to go through the longevity preparedness index. There are longevity preparedness index. There are eight different eight different >> dimensions. All right, so let's look at >> dimensions. All right, so let's look at those eight dimensions. those eight dimensions. First one is the obvious one, and and First one is the obvious one, and and certainly with with Agnes, you can certainly with with Agnes, you can appreciate this, is the health-related appreciate this, is the health-related issue. Are you pursuing behaviors and issue. Are you pursuing behaviors and nutrition that makes sense? nutrition that makes sense? Finance. Hey, when you think about old Finance. Hey, when you think about old age and retirement, basically the entire age and retirement, basically the entire world has you believing it's either world has you believing it's either health or it's wealth. health or it's wealth. >> That's true. That's all you think about, >> That's true. That's all you think about, health and wealth. health and wealth. >> are the bookends. But think about all >> are the bookends. But think about all those chapters in between. So finance is those chapters in between. So finance is certainly an important part. certainly an important part. >> are just the first two. So first one is >> are just the first two. So first one is health, second one

health, second one >> is >> is >> And now, what are the other six? >> And now, what are the other six? >> And by the way, this is not priority, >> And by the way, this is not priority, but this just the list. but this just the list. I know you're interviewing me, but I'm I know you're interviewing me, but I'm going to ask you the question. What's going to ask you the question. What's the most important number in your old the most important number in your old age? age? >> I don't know. >> I don't know. >> It's not your 401k balance, it's not >> It's not your 401k balance, it's not your blood pressure, your cholesterol, your blood pressure, your cholesterol, or even or even >> Is it the number of people I'm living >> Is it the number of people I'm living with? with? >> Actually, it's your zip code. Your zip >> Actually, it's your zip code. Your zip code predicts everything from the access code predicts everything from the access to the people that you love, the things to the people that you love, the things that you need, to that ice cream cone that you need, to that ice cream cone that we were talking about. In fact, do that we were talking about. In fact, do you know that studies have been done you know that studies have been done that shows that zip codes right next to that shows that zip codes right next to each other can mean 9 to 13 years each other can mean 9 to 13 years difference in your longevity overall? difference in your longevity overall? >> Really? >> Really? >> So, the third dimension is community. >> So, the third dimension is community. Choose well. Choose where you live. Choose well. Choose where you live. >> We all want to know the zip codes. >> We all want to know the zip codes. >> So, oh I teach urban planning, so I'll >> So, oh I teach urban planning, so I'll say it's intensity, density, and say it's intensity, density, and accessibility. Intensity is are there accessibility. Intensity is are there things to do that are fun? That that things to do that are fun? That that kind of keep you alive? kind of keep you alive? But also the things you need, access to But also the things you need, access to transportation, access to health care. transportation, access to health care. And by the way, access to volunteering

And by the way, access to volunteering work and and and the you know, parks and work and and and the you know, parks and the like. Density, are they close enough the like. Density, are they close enough where you can get to them? If you choose where you can get to them? If you choose not to drive, can't drive, are they not to drive, can't drive, are they nearby? That ice cream cone that's too nearby? That ice cream cone that's too far away, you don't need it. far away, you don't need it. But boy, that doesn't bring a smile to But boy, that doesn't bring a smile to your face. your face. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> And then frankly, the accessibility >> And then frankly, the accessibility part, which is you know, how accessible part, which is you know, how accessible are these things both physically and are these things both physically and affordability and and the like. And I'll affordability and and the like. And I'll even give you a tool, AARP's got a even give you a tool, AARP's got a livability index where you can pop in a livability index where you can pop in a zip code and it'll give you a score as zip code and it'll give you a score as to what the livability is of that given to what the livability is of that given community that you may be planning for community that you may be planning for or frankly, the one that you live in or frankly, the one that you live in now. now. >> And it makes sense. Like as I'm sitting >> And it makes sense. Like as I'm sitting here thinking, I live in Southern here thinking, I live in Southern Vermont. I have to drive everywhere. I Vermont. I have to drive everywhere. I don't see another house from where I don't see another house from where I live. I'm in a rural area even though live. I'm in a rural area even though I'm just like a couple miles from a I'm just like a couple miles from a really nice town with all the things really nice town with all the things that I could possibly need. I can't get that I could possibly need. I can't get there there >> No. >> No. >> unless I want to walk for two hours or I >> unless I want to walk for two hours or I am in a car and I'm thinking, okay, I am in a car and I'm thinking, okay, I can only live here for so long that I'm can only live here for so long that I'm going to have to go somewhere else. This

going to have to go somewhere else. This is not a good retirement option unless I is not a good retirement option unless I have kids all over. have kids all over. >> Part of aging well is choosing where to >> Part of aging well is choosing where to age as one of the most important things. age as one of the most important things. Fourth one Fourth one is home. is home. Is your home going to support you? Where Is your home going to support you? Where there is not just about stairs, but it's there is not just about stairs, but it's about maintenance. It's it's about how about maintenance. It's it's about how difficult is it to to remain in that difficult is it to to remain in that home overall. The next one, life home overall. The next one, life transitions. How well are we prepared transitions. How well are we prepared for the transitions we have in life from for the transitions we have in life from retirement to caregiving to having to retirement to caregiving to having to move and the like. Have we thought about move and the like. Have we thought about how we're going to do that, who we're how we're going to do that, who we're going to do it with? going to do it with? Daily activities. This is the Tuesday Daily activities. This is the Tuesday morning question at 10:30. morning question at 10:30. What are the things have you thought What are the things have you thought about what you're going to be doing on about what you're going to be doing on any given day without the structure of any given day without the structure of work, without without having the work, without without having the structure of caregiving kids and and the structure of caregiving kids and and the like? Social connection. Again, the the like? Social connection. Again, the the social portfolio idea. So, we talk about social portfolio idea. So, we talk about who's what's in your wallet, what's in who's what's in your wallet, what's in your portfolio. And the last one is your portfolio. And the last one is caregiving. And probably the biggest caregiving. And probably the biggest thing that was overwhelming

thing that was overwhelming [clears throat] [clears throat] is caregiving. Had the lowest score in is caregiving. Had the lowest score in terms of people being prepared to terms of people being prepared to provide care for another. That one was a provide care for another. That one was a 42. 42. >> Oh, you are flunking out of school if >> Oh, you are flunking out of school if you're getting a 42. you're getting a 42. >> amazing about that, to quote Rosalynn >> amazing about that, to quote Rosalynn Carter or to paraphrase her, one of the Carter or to paraphrase her, one of the things that she said is at some point in things that she said is at some point in life all of us will either be a care life all of us will either be a care recipient or a caregiver. recipient or a caregiver. The problem is, Mel, we don't have the The problem is, Mel, we don't have the conversations. Our same study with conversations. Our same study with Hancock indicated 70% of us believe that Hancock indicated 70% of us believe that our significant other or our adult child our significant other or our adult child will provide us with care. will provide us with care. Only 30% of us have had the Only 30% of us have had the conversation. conversation. So, it's like going to your typically So, it's like going to your typically and I keep on hammering the adult and I keep on hammering the adult daughters. I'm sorry, guys, but yes, men daughters. I'm sorry, guys, but yes, men are caregivers, but overwhelmingly the are caregivers, but overwhelmingly the number one caregiver in your life is number one caregiver in your life is your spouse. And after that, the oldest your spouse. And after that, the oldest adult daughter. Without that adult daughter. Without that conversation, it's like, "Surprise, I'm conversation, it's like, "Surprise, I'm home." home." >> For the person who's listening and >> For the person who's listening and you're part of the 70% of people

you're part of the 70% of people >> who have not had the conversation. >> who have not had the conversation. >> not had the conversation. >> not had the conversation. Or you've tried and you got nowhere. Or you've tried and you got nowhere. What What is the best first step, Dr. Coughlin, is the best first step, Dr. Coughlin, to begin the conversation? to begin the conversation? >> I would cut it down to, shall we say, >> I would cut it down to, shall we say, some simple uh, questions overall. some simple uh, questions overall. Have a conversation multiple cuz there's Have a conversation multiple cuz there's no one and done. This is going to no one and done. This is going to continue about who, continue about who, where, where, what, and how. what, and how. So, the who part is, you know, kind of So, the who part is, you know, kind of gently go into gently go into who is going to provide care? Who Who do who is going to provide care? Who Who do you think is going to going to provide you think is going to going to provide care? Who's going to help with the the care? Who's going to help with the the hands-on caregiving we we we're talking hands-on caregiving we we we're talking about overall. about overall. But, there's another side of who. A lot But, there's another side of who. A lot of us have somebody to care for us for of us have somebody to care for us for medications and dressing and around the medications and dressing and around the house. house. But, also who's going to make the But, also who's going to make the decisions? Who do you want making decisions? Who do you want making decisions if you can't any longer? So, decisions if you can't any longer? So, those are two different conversations those are two different conversations that need to be had gently over time, that need to be had gently over time, but they need to be had.

but they need to be had. How about the where? How about the where? When it comes time for caregiving, where When it comes time for caregiving, where do you want that care to happen? Do you do you want that care to happen? Do you want home care? Do you want to come live want home care? Do you want to come live with your with your adult children? Do you want to be in adult children? Do you want to be in senior living? What What are What are senior living? What What are What are the values, if you will, about the the values, if you will, about the where? where? And by the way, the the what overall is And by the way, the the what overall is and this is the hard hardest and this is the hard hardest conversation. What matters? How about conversation. What matters? How about dignity? What What What are you willing dignity? What What What are you willing to put up with to either maintain your to put up with to either maintain your life, extend your life, and and the life, extend your life, and and the like? And then there's the obvious like? And then there's the obvious question everyone goes to first, the question everyone goes to first, the how. How do we pay for this? How are the how. How do we pay for this? How are the mechanics? So, when we have the mechanics? So, when we have the conversation, it's multiple. It's who, conversation, it's multiple. It's who, where, what, and how. where, what, and how. >> You know, Dr. Coughlin, when you talked >> You know, Dr. Coughlin, when you talked about this longevity preparedness index about this longevity preparedness index and you found after doing this massive and you found after doing this massive study study >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Um, >> Um, and you discovered that the area where and you discovered that the area where people are the least prepared is people are the least prepared is caregiving. caregiving. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> That 70% of us have not even had the >> That 70% of us have not even had the conversation yet. And that based on the

conversation yet. And that based on the research and common sense, research and common sense, it tends to fall, based on catastrophe, it tends to fall, based on catastrophe, to the oldest daughter. to the oldest daughter. >> Yes. >> Yes. >> Do you have insight into why is it the >> Do you have insight into why is it the eldest daughter eldest daughter that always tends to be the one that the that always tends to be the one that the caregiving falls to? caregiving falls to? >> Look, >> Look, it's unfair. It's not about gender, it's it's unfair. It's not about gender, it's not about biology, it's it's about role. not about biology, it's it's about role. And And traditionally across cultures, traditionally across cultures, uh women tend to be the caregiver. uh women tend to be the caregiver. Um look, I don't want to indict my my Um look, I don't want to indict my my gender of guys. Uh we will clean your gender of guys. Uh we will clean your gutters, we may help you with your gutters, we may help you with your finances, uh I'll take out your trash. finances, uh I'll take out your trash. Generally speaking, and I said Generally speaking, and I said generally, so please don't, you know, generally, so please don't, you know, get all excited there. Generally get all excited there. Generally speaking, it will be the older adult speaking, it will be the older adult daughter that's going to help you when daughter that's going to help you when you need to get dressed. So, it tends to you need to get dressed. So, it tends to be a role there. But, I have to tell be a role there. But, I have to tell you, while caregiving has great joys and you, while caregiving has great joys and rewards, but you hear caregivers say

rewards, but you hear caregivers say after the loved one has passed, it was after the loved one has passed, it was the most important most the most important most uh thing they've ever done. uh thing they've ever done. There is a cost. It's physical, it's There is a cost. It's physical, it's emotional, and indeed it's also emotional, and indeed it's also financial. And she is more likely to pay financial. And she is more likely to pay for it than anybody else. for it than anybody else. >> I think this is one of those >> I think this is one of those conversations that conversations that people are going to listen to and be people are going to listen to and be moved by and then share it inside their moved by and then share it inside their family. family. If If the person that's listening right now the person that's listening right now got this sent to them by somebody in got this sent to them by somebody in their family, their family, what do you want them to know what do you want them to know in terms of the invitation that's here in terms of the invitation that's here right now about your role to play, right now about your role to play, whether it's in your own aging or it's whether it's in your own aging or it's in your role to play related to how in your role to play related to how somebody in your family may be aging? somebody in your family may be aging? >> You know, there there are few things and >> You know, there there are few things and my team at the MIT AgeLab has a a panel my team at the MIT AgeLab has a a panel of caregivers. So, we call it CareHive. of caregivers. So, we call it CareHive. So, several thousand caregivers around So, several thousand caregivers around the world that we we tend to ask them

the world that we we tend to ask them about those micro moments of caregiving. about those micro moments of caregiving. And when my team came up with the idea, And when my team came up with the idea, I did not I did not want to do it. I said, "Really guys? want to do it. I said, "Really guys? These people are busy, they're stressed, These people are busy, they're stressed, and you want to hammer them with focus and you want to hammer them with focus groups, surveys, or whatever?" groups, surveys, or whatever?" One of the things that we learned, One of the things that we learned, the caregivers wanted to participate. the caregivers wanted to participate. Cuz here's the question no one ever asks Cuz here's the question no one ever asks the caregiver, the caregiver, "How are you doing?" Not just the loved "How are you doing?" Not just the loved one that they're caring for, but how are one that they're caring for, but how are you doing? And so that little study you doing? And so that little study that's ongoing, asking people not just that's ongoing, asking people not just what you're doing, but how you're doing. what you're doing, but how you're doing. So one of the things to think about is So one of the things to think about is make sure that you're asking how they're make sure that you're asking how they're doing, and doing, and helping them care for themselves. helping them care for themselves. Because the cost, as I mentioned, is the Because the cost, as I mentioned, is the physical. Do you know that that physical. Do you know that that caregivers are more likely to express caregivers are more likely to express fatigue, fatigue, headache, headache, and the like. Emotionally, depression, and the like. Emotionally, depression, feeling alone. And financial, and this feeling alone. And financial, and this is the really hard work that that that is the really hard work that that that we've been doing with the financial we've been doing with the financial services industry. Women are more likely

services industry. Women are more likely to either step out of a job entirely to either step out of a job entirely because they're having to care for a because they're having to care for a loved one full-time, loved one full-time, or not take a promotion because the or not take a promotion because the promotion may have travel, and I got to promotion may have travel, and I got to make sure I take care of mom overall, or make sure I take care of mom overall, or because of the financial cost of because of the financial cost of caregiving, even if that loved one has caregiving, even if that loved one has finances, is going to set her back. So finances, is going to set her back. So women effectively have a a triple women effectively have a a triple threat. They're caring for others, threat. They're caring for others, they're jeopardizing their own finances, they're jeopardizing their own finances, which means that when by the time the which means that when by the time the third they get to their own old age, third they get to their own old age, they are not prepared for their own old they are not prepared for their own old age. age. >> I hadn't even thought about the >> I hadn't even thought about the financial impact. Because even if you're financial impact. Because even if you're caring for somebody who's aging, who has caring for somebody who's aging, who has their own money, their own money, if it's compromising your ability to if it's compromising your ability to make money. make money. >> One in four families in the United >> One in four families in the United States, and even more so in Europe and States, and even more so in Europe and the like, provide upwards of 25 to 29 the like, provide upwards of 25 to 29 hours a week for caregiving. If you're hours a week for caregiving. If you're over 50, one in three families are over 50, one in three families are providing upwards of 25 to 29 hours a providing upwards of 25 to 29 hours a week for caregiving. This is a personal week for caregiving. This is a personal issue that should be a public problem, a issue that should be a public problem, a public discussion. But here's the thing, public discussion. But here's the thing, Mel.

Mel. Women tend to find a partner, or someone Women tend to find a partner, or someone who's a few years older than they are. who's a few years older than they are. They also tend to live 7 to 8 years They also tend to live 7 to 8 years longer. That means that while you're longer. That means that while you're planning for old age and retirement planning for old age and retirement together, together, she lives in second retirement of a she lives in second retirement of a decade alone. decade alone. And so, preparing for all the years that And so, preparing for all the years that she gave to everyone else, she gave to everyone else, >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> she now needs to make sure she's >> she now needs to make sure she's financially, emotionally, and physically financially, emotionally, and physically cared for in older age. cared for in older age. >> What are the top three challenges, >> What are the top three challenges, frictions if you will, that caregivers frictions if you will, that caregivers face? face? >> Caregivers are are more likely to point >> Caregivers are are more likely to point to first one, health. Not just managing to first one, health. Not just managing health, but the complexity of managing health, but the complexity of managing the health. When you start managing the health. When you start managing three, four, five, more likely seven three, four, five, more likely seven medications a day, you may have a loved medications a day, you may have a loved one who's not exactly being as compliant one who's not exactly being as compliant as you wish. You know, the person who as you wish. You know, the person who said that they're feeling dizzy and not said that they're feeling dizzy and not well on weekend, you take them to the well on weekend, you take them to the doctor on Monday morning, you're trying doctor on Monday morning, you're trying to be their advocate, and they're going, to be their advocate, and they're going, "Oh, no, I was fine. I'm not I you know, "Oh, no, I was fine. I'm not I you know, so you're you're kind of in that that

so you're you're kind of in that that middle ground. Second one is is largely middle ground. Second one is is largely around finance, because that that You around finance, because that that You know what's interesting? We are more know what's interesting? We are more willing to talk about our health, our willing to talk about our health, our caregiving, our our our failures than we caregiving, our our our failures than we are about our money. And at some point, are about our money. And at some point, a family member, hopefully one that you a family member, hopefully one that you trust, because fraud and scams are more trust, because fraud and scams are more likely to come from someone close to you likely to come from someone close to you than someone, you know, in a foreign than someone, you know, in a foreign country over online. country over online. >> scams are more likely to come from >> scams are more likely to come from somebody [clears throat] close to you? somebody [clears throat] close to you? >> Unfortunately, you've got a lot of fraud >> Unfortunately, you've got a lot of fraud that you have with family members, that you have with family members, caregivers that mean well and eventually caregivers that mean well and eventually do not mean well, and that's a major do not mean well, and that's a major point of research in the at the Asia lab point of research in the at the Asia lab right now. So, the financial right now. So, the financial considerations of how are things considerations of how are things organized? How you know, where do I have organized? How you know, where do I have the ability to to make a decision for the ability to to make a decision for you if you can no longer do it? And and you if you can no longer do it? And and how do you have the conversation when how do you have the conversation when somebody says, "No, that's that's none somebody says, "No, that's that's none of your business." even if, you know, of your business." even if, you know, the person's meaning well. the person's meaning well. >> Wow, and what's the third? >> Wow, and what's the third? >> The third one is the one that is kind of

>> The third one is the one that is kind of the sleeping giant, because this has the sleeping giant, because this has been consistent for more than 60 years been consistent for more than 60 years of aging research and caregiving. The of aging research and caregiving. The third one is transportation. In fact, third one is transportation. In fact, Mel, I'll give you a data point that Mel, I'll give you a data point that even the best financial advisor does not even the best financial advisor does not know. Do you know the top three costs of know. Do you know the top three costs of retirement for a couple over 65? retirement for a couple over 65? Everybody always jumps up, "Healthcare." Everybody always jumps up, "Healthcare." Okay, that's number two. Okay, that's number two. First one is home. Number three is First one is home. Number three is transportation. transportation. 70% of Americans over age 50 live in 70% of Americans over age 50 live in suburban and rural areas where there's suburban and rural areas where there's no transit or it's not transit you want no transit or it's not transit you want to use or there's no alternatives. So, to use or there's no alternatives. So, caregivers often report that the big caregivers often report that the big challenge they have for that number challenge they have for that number three is three is "God, I got to take time from work to "God, I got to take time from work to make sure mom gets to the doctor." Or make sure mom gets to the doctor." Or Saturday morning, Saturday morning, I have a lot of things I need to do. I I have a lot of things I need to do. I got to go take the kids to practice or got to go take the kids to practice or whatever it might be, but also I got to whatever it might be, but also I got to make sure mom gets to the grocery store make sure mom gets to the grocery store or I got to check in on mom to make or I got to check in on mom to make sure, you know, I can help clean up sure, you know, I can help clean up around the house and give her a ride to around the house and give her a ride to a friend or get out. Transportation is

a friend or get out. Transportation is not about getting from point A to B. not about getting from point A to B. That's the easy stuff. That's the easy stuff. Transportation is the very glue that Transportation is the very glue that holds the big and little things we call holds the big and little things we call life together. life together. >> Can we talk about keys? You mentioned do >> Can we talk about keys? You mentioned do not roll into like a holiday and say, not roll into like a holiday and say, "Pass the peas and give me your keys, "Pass the peas and give me your keys, mom and dad." mom and dad." >> Yeah, yeah, no, over overall, and here's >> Yeah, yeah, no, over overall, and here's the challenge. A lot of people will the challenge. A lot of people will think that older drivers is that they think that older drivers is that they show up at Thanksgiving. They haven't show up at Thanksgiving. They haven't seen mom or dad for 6 months, maybe a seen mom or dad for 6 months, maybe a year, maybe even more, and they kind of year, maybe even more, and they kind of look at the table and go, look at the table and go, "Gee, "Gee, he's gotten kind of older, hasn't he?" he's gotten kind of older, hasn't he?" And it's like, "I don't think he should And it's like, "I don't think he should he should be driving." he should be driving." Mel, this is how the Age Lab started Mel, this is how the Age Lab started around older drivers. We know this area around older drivers. We know this area very well. very well. It is not about birthdays. Birthdays do It is not about birthdays. Birthdays do not kill. Health conditions do. not kill. Health conditions do. And so, it's about the health And so, it's about the health conditions, the medications they're conditions, the medications they're taking, what combination, nutrition. As taking, what combination, nutrition. As I like to say, I'd rather get in a car I like to say, I'd rather get in a car with an 80-year-old who's in decent with an 80-year-old who's in decent shape than a 30-year-old taking allergy shape than a 30-year-old taking allergy medication. medication. And so, one of the things we have to And so, one of the things we have to think about is how do you have that

think about is how do you have that conversation when there does come a time conversation when there does come a time when driving is a problem? If they when driving is a problem? If they confuse the pedals, we're done. Um look confuse the pedals, we're done. Um look for patterns, not just like, you know, for patterns, not just like, you know, one mailbox being knocked over. Well, a one mailbox being knocked over. Well, a lot of us do that and we don't talk lot of us do that and we don't talk about it. But doing it as a pattern, now about it. But doing it as a pattern, now we got an issue. So, yeah, uh having the we got an issue. So, yeah, uh having the conversation is not simply about passing conversation is not simply about passing the peas and handing over the keys. It's the peas and handing over the keys. It's about doing your homework. How's that about doing your homework. How's that person going to get out? How are they person going to get out? How are they going to get to the things they need? going to get to the things they need? But more importantly, in terms of But more importantly, in terms of quality of life, how are they going to quality of life, how are they going to get to the things and the people they get to the things and the people they love and want? So, love and want? So, first thing to do with them, first thing to do with them, start experimenting. Start coming up start experimenting. Start coming up with who's going to provide rides. If with who's going to provide rides. If they've never taken a ride-share they've never taken a ride-share opportunity with Lyft, Uber, or whoever opportunity with Lyft, Uber, or whoever is in the neighborhood, do it while they is in the neighborhood, do it while they don't have to, so they get it over with. don't have to, so they get it over with. >> I can feel that sense of urgency >> I can feel that sense of urgency building inside me. I know there are building inside me. I know there are very specific people I'm sending this to very specific people I'm sending this to in my family. [clears throat] Hi Mom and in my family. [clears throat] Hi Mom and Dad and my brother. How are you? Uh

Dad and my brother. How are you? Uh let's talk about this episode, and I'm let's talk about this episode, and I'm sure you're feeling the same way. And sure you're feeling the same way. And that's why I wanted to ask you, Dr. that's why I wanted to ask you, Dr. Coughlin, after all the extraordinary Coughlin, after all the extraordinary things that you have taught us today, things that you have taught us today, shared with us today, educated us about shared with us today, educated us about today, today, if the person listening if the person listening takes just one thing from this takes just one thing from this extraordinary conversation, what do you extraordinary conversation, what do you think the most important thing think the most important thing to take away is? to take away is? >> You know, my dissertation advisor taught >> You know, my dissertation advisor taught me that if you don't have three me that if you don't have three examples, you don't have a point. So, examples, you don't have a point. So, I'm going to give you three takeaways, I'm going to give you three takeaways, but uh this one is the most important but uh this one is the most important one. Have the conversation. Longevity is a family project. It's not an individual family project. It's not an individual thing. Talk about care, housing, what thing. Talk about care, housing, what matters before the crisis happens matters before the crisis happens because when the crisis happens, because when the crisis happens, somebody falls, breaks a hip on Friday, somebody falls, breaks a hip on Friday, they're hospitalized surgery by Sunday. they're hospitalized surgery by Sunday. By Monday, the hospital is saying, By Monday, the hospital is saying, "Congratulations, mom's coming home." "Congratulations, mom's coming home." Who? What? Where? How? Remember those

Who? What? Where? How? Remember those questions around caregiving. questions around caregiving. The second one, this becomes more The second one, this becomes more personal for a couple or individual. personal for a couple or individual. Plan for Tuesday. Plan for Tuesday. That Tuesday at 10:30, that's really That Tuesday at 10:30, that's really real. You need to add structure to a real. You need to add structure to a life that was always structured until life that was always structured until the day you retired. the day you retired. And the third one, stop postponing your And the third one, stop postponing your future you. future you. There are things you can do today. There are things you can do today. Preparation is not about control. It's Preparation is not about control. It's not just about independence. It's not not just about independence. It's not about financial security alone. about financial security alone. Preparation is an act of love. A love of Preparation is an act of love. A love of self, a love of your significant other, self, a love of your significant other, and a love of all those that you think and a love of all those that you think are going you're going to be depending are going you're going to be depending on over time. on over time. >> Doctor Coughlin, >> Doctor Coughlin, what are your parting words? what are your parting words? >> Parting words is I don't want anyone to >> Parting words is I don't want anyone to believe that older age believe that older age is something that we should fear. is something that we should fear. This is a gift of time. This is a gift of time. You know, since people crawled out of You know, since people crawled out of the ooze, if you will, we've wanted to the ooze, if you will, we've wanted to live longer, whether it's endless life,

live longer, whether it's endless life, eternal life, you know, the eternal life, you know, the trying to find all kinds of things going trying to find all kinds of things going on to make sure that we live longer. In on to make sure that we live longer. In fact, think of the billions now going fact, think of the billions now going into longevity tech into longevity tech that we're going to live to 100, 150. that we're going to live to 100, 150. That's great. That's great. I want you to look at older age I want you to look at older age as a gift of a dividend of upwards of as a gift of a dividend of upwards of three to four decades longer three to four decades longer than our grandparents, than our grandparents, great-grandparents may have enjoyed. A great-grandparents may have enjoyed. A child born today, one half of them, it child born today, one half of them, it is said, are likely to live 100 years. is said, are likely to live 100 years. >> Wow. >> Wow. >> We don't know how to cash in the years >> We don't know how to cash in the years we have. we have. Let's make living longer living better. Let's make living longer living better. >> Well, Doctor Coughlin, I just >> Well, Doctor Coughlin, I just have to say you are a gift. have to say you are a gift. This research is so important. There are This research is so important. There are very few conversations that you have very few conversations that you have that both that both change your mind, change your mind, that open you up to an entirely that open you up to an entirely different perspective, and that soften different perspective, and that soften your heart

your heart in a way that can not only transform in a way that can not only transform your own life, but can improve the your own life, but can improve the relationships that you have with the relationships that you have with the people that you care about. And this one people that you care about. And this one has had a very deep impact on me has had a very deep impact on me personally. I know it's going to have an personally. I know it's going to have an impact on my family, and impact on my family, and I am also certain that there will be I am also certain that there will be millions of families around the world millions of families around the world who will navigate this differently, more who will navigate this differently, more compassionately, compassionately, because of what you taught us today. So, because of what you taught us today. So, thank you. thank you. >> now my team has done amazing work at the >> now my team has done amazing work at the MIT Asia Lab, but you're doing something MIT Asia Lab, but you're doing something that we cannot do. Before the reaction, that we cannot do. Before the reaction, there must be attention. And thank you there must be attention. And thank you for making that happen. for making that happen. >> You're welcome. And I want to thank you. >> You're welcome. And I want to thank you. Thank you, Dr. Coughlin just said it. Thank you, Dr. Coughlin just said it. You You gave your time and attention, your most gave your time and attention, your most precious resource, to this conversation, precious resource, to this conversation, and that really matters. And in case no and that really matters. And in case no one else tells you, as your friend, I one else tells you, as your friend, I wanted to be sure to tell you that I

wanted to be sure to tell you that I love you and I believe in you. And I love you and I believe in you. And I believe in your ability to create a believe in your ability to create a better life. And what Dr. Coughlin has better life. And what Dr. Coughlin has taught us today about the opportunity, taught us today about the opportunity, the gift [music] of all of these the gift [music] of all of these additional years, he has taught us how additional years, he has taught us how not to just live more years, but to put not to just live more years, but to put more life into those years. more life into those years. >> [music] >> [music] >> And what a gift that is. All righty, I >> And what a gift that is. All righty, I will see you in the very next episode. will see you in the very next episode. I'll welcome you in the moment you hit I'll welcome you in the moment you hit play. Was this not fantastic? [music] play. Was this not fantastic? [music] Send this to your parents, if you're Send this to your parents, if you're lucky enough to still have them here, lucky enough to still have them here, and your grandparents, or your siblings, and your grandparents, or your siblings, your [music] friends. Like, be generous your [music] friends. Like, be generous with this. And I know you want to watch with this. And I know you want to watch another video now that you're all another video now that you're all inspired and fired up, and I think inspired and fired up, and I think you're going to love this one next and you're going to love this one next and I'll be there to welcome you in the I'll be there to welcome you in the moment you hit play.

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The Ice Cream Cone Test

Small pleasures reveal the quality of a life more honestly than milestone experiences. The ice cream cone test sounds simple because it is. On a hot summer night, when you want a soft serve at the exact moment the desire arrives, can you get one without turning the moment into a project.

That question holds more wisdom than it first appears to. It asks whether you know what reliably creates daily joy and ease. It asks whether those pleasures are still within reach when driving, stamina, confidence, or mobility begin to change.

We often plan later life around rare events. We imagine travel, family gatherings, and the larger experiences that photograph well. Those moments matter, but they do not carry the weight of every day. A life is built from repeated access to ordinary delight.

Access is part of wellbeing. Dr. Coughlin notes that 70 percent of Americans over 50 live in places where, if you do not drive, you do not get out easily. That fact turns a simple craving into a design problem. The ice cream cone becomes a measure of independence.

When driving becomes limited, spontaneity is often the first freedom to narrow. You can schedule transportation for a medical appointment. You can coordinate help for a family event. But the ordinary impulse, the walk, the coffee, the visit, the cone on a summer night, requires a different kind of planning.

This is not about indulgence. It is about preserving the right to participate in your own life without constant negotiation. Daily ease supports equilibrium; it keeps the world close enough to touch.

Longer life or life at any stage is about the little moments.

A strong longevity plan names the small things that make you smile, then protects your access to them. It considers neighborhood, transportation, sidewalks, proximity, community, and the people who can help without making help feel heavy. Freedom depends on ordinary moments staying ordinary.

Tuesday At 10:30

The unplanned day can become one of retirement's quietest challenges. Work, parenting, caregiving, and household rhythms give life a frame. When those structures loosen, time expands. Tuesday at 10:30 becomes a test of rhythm.

Many people imagine retirement as relief from obligation. Relief is real, and it can feel earned. Yet a life without structure does not automatically become a life of vitality. Open time needs intention, or it drifts toward passive routine.

In the conversation, Coughlin notes that the average couple over 65 watches four to five hours of television per day. The number is not a moral failure. It is a signal. When a day has no strong architecture, the easiest available activity begins to define it.

A daily rhythm is a longevity protocol, not a productivity demand. The goal is not to fill every hour or recreate the pressure of a career. The goal is to preserve curiosity, contribution, movement, connection, and a reason to transition from one part of the day to the next.

Tuesday at 10:30 asks what you will do when no one is waiting for you to show up. It asks what will pull you into the world. It asks where your attention will go when the urgent parts of life become quieter.

The answer can be modest. A class. A walk with a neighbor. A standing lunch. A volunteer shift. A library ritual. A morning swim. A practice that anchors the body and steadies the mind.

Structure creates space for vitality. It turns time from something to pass into something to inhabit. There are a lot of Tuesdays in a longer life, and the ordinary day deserves design.

Who Changes The Light Bulbs

Independence depends on trusted support, not just financial capacity. The question of who changes the light bulbs is practical by design. It points to the small household tasks that quietly hold a life together until they become difficult, risky, or impossible to ignore.

Start with the list. Taking out the trash. Preparing meals. Replacing bulbs. Carrying groceries. Handling repairs. Getting to appointments. Checking that someone arrived home safely. These tasks can feel invisible because they are repeated without ceremony.

Later life exposes the systems that were never named. If a ladder becomes unsafe, if driving narrows, if memory is less sharp, or if a spouse can no longer manage the usual role, ordinary maintenance needs redundancy. The plan must exist before the crisis asks for it.

Money helps, but it is not the whole answer. You can pay for a repair, a meal service, a ride, or care at home. The deeper question is whether the person entering the home is trusted, and whether the older adult will accept their presence.

Trust changes the experience of help. A stranger with a tool bag is not the same as a known neighbor, a vetted service, a family friend, or a professional already introduced before urgency arrives. Support works best when it feels familiar enough to be received.

This is why caregiving belongs inside longevity planning. Care is not only what happens after a fall, a diagnosis, or a visible decline. It is the practical network that keeps meals, repairs, transportation, check-ins, and decisions from depending on one exhausted person.

We build resilience by creating backups. One person should not be the entire system. A deliberate plan distributes responsibility, clarifies expectations, and gives everyone more room to respond with steadiness.

The light bulb question brings the future into the room without drama. It asks who already knows how to help. It asks who will be allowed inside. It asks whether independence has the support it deserves.

Build A Social Portfolio

Connection is not a luxury in later life. It is part of the architecture of health. Research cited in the conversation links loneliness and social isolation with physical risks comparable to smoking 11 to 15 cigarettes per day. Isolation reaches the body, not only the mood.

That reality gives friendship new weight. A social life is not simply a pleasant layer added to longevity. It supports resilience, steadies the day, and creates the human redundancy that no app or account balance can replace.

Longevity is a family project. It's not an individual thing.

Friendship also changes with age. People die. People become ill. People relocate. Families grow, and attention moves toward children, grandchildren, caregiving, and logistics. What once felt like a wide circle can become smaller before anyone formally names the loss.

Coughlin describes one to three close friends as a realistic core circle. These are the people who show up at 2:00 in the morning, who know the family story, who notice silence, and who stand close when life becomes complicated. That kind of wealth is deeply practical.

A social portfolio also needs renewal. Friends under development matter because attrition is real. New connections do not replace the history of old ones, but they keep life open. They protect the future from becoming too dependent on the past.

Treating friendship as a portfolio does not make it transactional. It makes it intentional. You tend it because it carries value, and because value grows through time, attention, and repeated care.

The MIT AgeLab brings this same design mindset to homes, communities, transportation, caregiving, and work. Its AGNES suit, the Age Gain Now Empathy System, helps people experience how aging can affect movement, vision, and everyday tasks. The point is not simulation for spectacle. The point is better design.

Age-ready homes and communities begin with empathy, then move into systems. They ask how a person will move, reach, see, travel, receive care, work, connect, and keep choosing. Longevity becomes less abstract when you design around the lived day.

Aging well is not the absence of need. It is the presence of thoughtful supports before need becomes urgent. You protect freedom by building rituals, access, structure, care, and friendship with the same seriousness you give to savings. That is how a longer life becomes a better one.

We don't know how to cash in the years we have. Let's make living longer living better.

Wim's Wise Words

A second take, from someone who's lived it.

If you take one thing from this, take this: freedom in later life is built while you still have range. Not when the stairs become difficult. Not when driving starts to feel uncertain. Now, while small choices are still easy enough to shape deliberately.

I would treat longevity less like a distant target and more like a weekly design practice. Look at your home, your calendar, your friendships, your body, and your rituals. Ask what makes the day feel spacious, steady, and worth repeating. Then protect those things with structure.

Where I Would Start

Start with one ordinary morning and one ordinary evening. Build a protocol around both. In the morning, get light, move, speak to someone, and give the body a clear signal that the day has begun. In the evening, remove friction from recovery. Heat helps me here. Twenty minutes in a sauna can do what an evening drink pretends to do: mark the close of the day, soften the body, and create a pause before sleep.

Heat and cold are useful because they ask the body to adapt. Sauna raises heart rate and circulation in a controlled way. Cold exposure can sharpen attention and train calm under stress. That is hormesis in plain language: a precise challenge, followed by recovery, builds resilience. If you want the deeper contrast therapy lens, Thermal Stress, Cellular Longevity is the natural next read.

The caveat is important. Contrast does not compensate for a life with no architecture. A cold plunge will not replace friendship. A sauna will not replace strength, sleep, protein, sunlight, or a plan for who comes through the door when you need help. These rituals are powerful when they sit inside a wider system.

So make the system visible. Write one page. Three columns: body, access, people. Under body, list the practices that keep you capable. Under access, list what you need within reach: food, movement, nature, care, small pleasures. Under people, name the few who notice when your rhythm changes. This is not anxiety. It is stewardship.

I would also measure less and notice more. Data has value when it serves the ritual, not when it becomes another performance. Track what helps you sleep, move, recover, and stay connected. Then let the numbers return you to the lived day. Longevity Works When Measurement Serves the Ritual makes that distinction well.

Your future self does not need perfection. They need options. They need strength enough to rise, rituals that create equilibrium, access to ordinary joy, and relationships that are already warm before they are needed. Build that quietly. Build it before it feels urgent. That is how freedom becomes more than an idea.